There has been a lot of commentary lately about cross-dressers lying to those they love about their dressing. Most of the responses have been very negative and condemning.
In my situation my wife knew about my dressing but not the true extent of things. She thought it started with her. Didn't know that it has been literally my entire concious life. I finally told her the whole story when there was the possibility of my whole history being brought out in court. (friends custody battle). She took the news well "Whats the difference?"
Now on to the meat of my post...
Most of us have been told our whole lives how terrible people like us were (Maybe not directly as in You are terrible). How we were perverts, 'fags', and a host of other sexually depraived terms. How we were going to go to hell, been beat up or seen or heard of others get beaten. Maybe been rejected in the past. Experienced more guilt than you can shake a stick at. Many who are closer to the tg/ts spectrum, go through a lot of self loathing about their bodies, and for the most part go through this alone, ignorant of the fact that there are others out there. Add to the fact that the internet is still fairly new and support like this site wasnt available for a lot of us to help us understand ourselves and not to feel like total freaks, and that we were not alone in the world. Can anyone really blame us for not screaming from the rooftops "I dress like woman hear me roar?"
Many went into marriages hoping it would 'cure' them that having the 'right' woman would make them a man. Many thought they could just quit. Most were prolly just terrified to tell the person they love most something to to many of us was the darkest, dirtiest secret that we couldn't imagine anyone would still love us after finding out.
I don't condone lying, but most of us were in a mental catch 22.
Well just needed to vent a little steam that has been building up for a while.