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    When is it Cross dressing?

    I read a thread on a different forum that dealt with wearing heels when otherwise just dressed in drab. That brought up a question: When are we cross dressed? Does it require the entire ensemble? Or is just a pair of heels enough to qualify?

    Personally, I think we are cross dressing when are wearing anything that gives us the pleasure of the clothing. It is an attitude or a state of mind for me.

    But, how dressed is dressing?
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    I think that is mostly determined by who and what we consider ourself to be.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cathytg View Post

    Personally, I think we are cross dressing when are wearing anything that gives us the pleasure of the clothing. It is an attitude or a state of mind for me.

    But, how dressed is dressing?
    I'm the same way. I do consider even wearing one thing as crossdressing, let it be heels, panties, camisol. Even if it's just a tshirt aimed for a woman. Still crossing that border =P
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    I think it starts with the 1st girlie thing that one puts on.
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    I would say it's Wednesday. Most people would say that I'm dressed in drab, but everything I have on is women's wear. Even the winter coat that I'll be wearing to clean the snow. But I don't have a wig or makeup on. So I'd say it's how ever you feel about it your self. That said, unless you're going all out, trying to pass. Then it definately cross dressing..BJ

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    I agree with Aggi, if you're male and wear anything, anything at all, that's even vaguely female then you're a crossdresser at least in a lot of people's eyes. Of course if you're female you can dress completely in male clothes and no one thinks anything of it. Kind of unfair, but there it is.

    Hmm, since that's the case, it seems like an argument for going all out, doesn't it?

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    I think its a matter of intent. If I put on my wife's bathrobe for the sole purpose of keeping warm, I'm not cross dressing. If I put on a satin thong and stockings under my drab clothes, I'm cross dressing just as much as if I put on my breast forms, bra and a dress.

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    I think it is cross dressing when you wear even one article of female clothing.

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    Its only crossdressing when you wear a skirt or a dress!! Anything else (aka jeans) is not.. According to the rule book! Chapter 3, page 8... Line 5... Hey.. I don't make the rules up ya know!
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    You're CROSSDRESSING:

    If your AWARE that something u have on is:
    Unusual
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    And Made for the OTHER gender!

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    I got a lot of heat on the "men in skirts" forums for using the word crossdressing because they want to have no association with it, but for me, I just find it easy to use the term as a shorthand. I can just say "I crossdress" and then get on with my life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Denise Rhodes View Post
    I think that is mostly determined by who and what we consider ourself to be.
    That would play a big part in it so you could say that there are two definitions of what is cross dressing, one would be your own definition of when you think that you have crossed the line and the other would be the general public's point of view when you have crossed the line as i expect they are a little different.

    Quote Originally Posted by Karren Hutton View Post
    Its only crossdressing when you wear a skirt or a dress!! Anything else (aka jeans) is not.. According to the rule book! Chapter 3, page 8... Line 5... Hey.. I don't make the rules up ya know!
    What if that skirt was made for a man .
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    I have to wonder what caused this question. It presupposes that there is some external set standard of dress for each gender, and if you deviate by a given amount, you are crossdressing.
    Now I don't think the world operates this way.

    I would say it's a subjective thing - if you believe you are CDing, then as far as you are concerned you are CDing. Other people may have no idea what you are doing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Karren Hutton View Post
    Its only crossdressing when you wear a skirt or a dress!! Anything else (aka jeans) is not.. According to the rule book! Chapter 3, page 8... Line 5... Hey.. I don't make the rules up ya know!
    Darn, well, at least I'm not in violation now!

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    Crossdressing? Or Fetish?

    Like Kimdl wrote, "I think its a matter of intent." But I think so for a completely different reason.

    One of the definitions of fetish is "A sexual fixation on a concept, object, or body part. A person with a fetish feels a compulsive need to use the object in order to obtain sexual gratification, and cannot achieve pleasure without it."

    It continues, "Common fetishes - for feet, watching pornographic movies, for lacy underwear, certain smells etc."

    So when is wearing only high heels or only panties or whatever crossdressing, and when is it a fetish?

    Perhaps if you just put it on to get sexually aroused, then it isn't crossdressing?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Joni Marie Cruz View Post
    I agree with Aggi, if you're male and wear anything, anything at all, that's even vaguely female then you're a crossdresser at least in a lot of people's eyes. Hugs...Joni Mari

    Hmmmmm I like that joni marie added...[in the eyes of a lot of people]

    lets face it they can only see our exterior...[male body] so if we dress female we are cross dressing right down to a single item.

    For those of us that feel more like a woman inside TG / TS... i feel i am puting on my crossdressing show when i dress like vince. for many of us that can't transition...cause life gets in the way... i think there are quite a few of us that would think this way.

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    It becomes crossdressing the second we think it is.
    And so we go, on with our lives...
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    For me just wearing panties is cross dressing, because in my head it is and I like that thought

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    I feel like a woman 24/7 even though I'm in drab most of the time, so for me dressing is when I get to feel externally what I've always known inside.

    That beautiful moment is always like I'm returning to what I should be, it feels so natural and it's always with reluctantance that I change back to drab mode.

    So I'm with msniki48.

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    I say it is crossdressing until you dress to the nines. At that point you have changed gender for the next few hrs or night and are wearing the clothing of the gender you are percieving which is not crossdressing.
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    When is crossdressing, considered CROSSDRESSING?

    Just how many angels can dance on the head of a pin?

    If it wasn't made for a man and you wear it, then it's crossdressing.

    Personally, I don't give a rotund rats rectum what people think about the way I decide to wear what clothes I have, OR where I choose to purchase them.
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    I am crossdresssed when I say I am crossdressed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by joanne f View Post
    What if that skirt was made for a man .
    There are no "skirts" made for men.. Kilts... Don't count.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Phyliss View Post
    When is crossdressing, considered CROSSDRESSING? Just how many angels can dance on the head of a pin?
    If it wasn't made for a man and you wear it, then it's crossdressing.
    Personally, I don't give a rotund rats rectum what people think about the way I decide to wear what clothes I have, OR where I choose to purchase them.
    Phyliss is correct, as usual! If you are a man, and wear something made for a woman you are crossdressing!! Of course the reverse is also true!!

    But who cares!! We are what we are, and clothing is not going to change that!! I am a man, even though I frequently am totally dressed in feminine clothing! Sometimes only partially dressed in feminine things! So I am a crossdresser, but I am still a MAN!! So call me a crossdresser, if you wish, but under whatever you see I am still a man!!
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