I never thought I would have reason to thank Oprah, but I do. Since I have started dressing again (about 6 wks, following a year-long purge), my wife and I have been having a rough go of it. She really though Renee was gone this time, and was quite taken aback when I told her she was back. We have been gong through all the same issues again – fear, misunderstanding, anger – you name it. She just has not been able to get her head around the fact that Renee is an essential part of me. I was out of town all last week, and before I left we really had a knock down, drag em out fight, even throwing the D word around. (we have been married for 21 yrs, and I told her about my dressing before marriage). Things settled down a bit before I left, and we had some productive conversations while I was away. We were talking as I was driving home, and she told me about a show on Oprah last week about Kimberly, a TS. The story really seemed to connect with my wife, in that she for the first time could see that maybe Renee might really be a part of me, not just an “addiction”, as she calls it. We watched it again together, and it has been the basis of more productive conversations. In the end, she has told me that she might be able to tolerate, and maybe even one day accept Renee. We have a long way to go, but this is a start.
Thanks, Oprah