I told her that sometimes I think I must be nuts.We laughed but really she says and feels we are not "normal".OK,but some things like a persons set of values and morals are much more important that the style of clothes or physical features.She made me admit at least I'am obsessed ...well yaa.But then she said as long as I can rise to the occasion when she needs a man things are well enough to let it be as it is .She knows and sees how strongly this is and is afraid of me telling her I want to go full time.