Who among us is a Crossdresser Only?

[dominique]

Crossdresser here and extremely proud of being one.

[Suzy Harrison]

I find closet CDing to be a big turn on!
I have NO DESIRE to present as a female to ANYONE ELSE!

Maybe that is the difference - because I don't find it a turn on - and I really want to present and be a female.

But it doesn't really matter as long as everyone has their needs full-filled.

hugs Suzy

[MargaretJ]

Just a crossdresser, love the clothes and shoes.

[Mary Jane]

I crossdress because it is FUN. I enjoy occasionally looking and dressing like a woman but definitely no desires to be a woman.

[mklinden2010]

Well, I dunno... I'd like to help you with the poll numbers... But...

>>I am a Crossdresser! I freely admit it, and am proud to do so. I am NOT transgendered or transsexual and have no desire to be either one.


Good for you. You tell 'em! Be loud and be proud.

So, you're in the right body and you feel like you're the right sex? You're OK where you are. Got that.


>>There is no desire in me to actually become a woman! I just like to wear the same clothing that real women wear! I really like the fit, the feel, and especially the look of feminine clothing on my body.


What is a woman - I mean, in "her" soul? Do souls have gender? How do you know you - your soul - would be any different if put in a different body?

"Real" women wear nursing bras, "real women" have monthly issues, "real" women are physically different in ways I can not fully imagine and which seriously I doubt you can.

"Real" women have made it plain to me that the whole idea of "feminine" is an artificial construct - and it varies from culture to culture and from one time in history to another.

"Feminine" clothing is an abstract idea, not a concrete reality. Clothes are just clothes; they serve a purpose - like staying warm or attracting attention.

So, in choosing the probably very limited subset of cloths that "you" wear, aren't you choosing to be a particular woman and therefore slipping (no pun intended) from switching clothes to switches sexes and/or genders?


>>So who else on this forum feels like I do? I know there are some who go out in public in feminine clothes, but looking like a man. I do that myself, more so than I used to since I lost my wife to cancer! She always did my wig and my makeup! What I am looking for is pure CD's, who dress simply for the fun of wearing female clothing. Not for sex or any other reason! I know you are out there, so "fess" up now!


In thinking about it, I can't help you with this idea of "pure CD's" because it's not at all clear what a "pure" CD would be - even after reading your proposal.

Would that be someone who wears any and all clothes without any thought of their typical gender or sexual assignment in the same way that a "pure" woman is what virgins are called?

And, can a "pure" woman be pure if you factor in what she thinks/has thought - as well as what physical encounters she has had?

I think, if you "like" the "same clothes" that "real" women wear, you cannot be pure. It's the preference that undoes you.

You like clothes that look and fit well, which might be some other kind of label issue, but more than that you like PARTICULAR clothes for what, I think, must be other than "pure" reasons.

Fess up now. I know those other thoughts are in there...

Good luck to you, in all that you do, if it works for you - no matter how that is...

[jeri_harris]

I am a Crossdresser! I freely admit it, and am proud to do so. I am NOT transgendered or transsexual and have no desire to be either one.

There is no desire in me to actually become a woman! I just like to wear the same clothing that real women wear! I really like the fit, the feel, and especially the look of feminine clothing on my body.

So who else on this forum feels like I do? I know there are some who go out in public in feminine clothes, but looking like a man. I do that myself, more so than I used to since I lost my wife to cancer! She always did my wig and my makeup! What I am looking for is pure CD's, who dress simply for the fun of wearing female clothing. Not for sex or any other reason! I know you are out there, so "fess" up now!

I was a straight cd and if I could I'd still be wearing all the good stuff

[Cary]

Just a Crossdresser who can't get enough of seeing, buying, and wearing women's clothes and shoes.

[Jason+]

just wondering, if they would be making dresses, lingerey and other stuff, same feel, same look, but in mens departement , would you buy it there, would it be the same feeling?

If they were the same price and quality, you bet.

By the stated definitions I am at least a cross dresser. Do we add some square padding to the eccentric peg and stuff it through the square hole or do we round off the eccentricity and apply a "there, now you'll fit" bandage on the way to the round hole.

Someone once asked me why I came to a chat room for cross dressers without a feminine name. I replied "it's the closest match for me."

[Melissa Anne]

I would say that I'm just a crossdresser.

[leatherderek3000]

That me I am a CD only and my favoutire items are leather boots, leather skirts and womens leather jackets and coats.

[Ms Jennifer]

Hmmmmmm

[Angiemead12]

Im a trans person already, I would like to be known as someone who is in between everything with the ability to do it all.

[AKAMichelle]

I started out as just a Cd'er turned on my the clothes. Over time that began to change. Now I don't feel turned on, but feel much more comfortable dressed.

I'm not sure where I fit in the TG spectrum. I am just sliding along with the ebbs and flows.

[Misty is Kindafem]

Something doesn't seem right to me.

I wonder how many of these "love being a man" responses are due to a wife or girlfriend that may be looking over the shoulder, so to speak.

I know a lot of "girls" here have their SO's on with them, either openly or lurking and even if they didn't, posting things like "I'm all man" and "I'm 100% straight" still goes a long way to providing cover just in case the posts are found or maybe even trotted out to bolster some masculinity during an argument.

If I had the energy or the interest, I would bet many of these "crossdresser only" types have a posting history that is rife with contradictions.

Personally, I'm extremely manly and masculine and stuff. I'm so macho my deodorant doesn't even work.

I cross dress every now and then but I hate it.

-Misty

[Jamie48]

Just a crossdresser & very content, thank you.

[Chickhe]

bla bla bla...all the terms etc. never fit exactly and some days you might feel different than others. All I know is I like the challenge of dressing up as a woman and trying to look like one. I'm not at all interested in the porn or fettish crap that is associated with the term crossdresser as seen a lot on the net and have no need to alter my body to become female. So ya, I'm just your average guy that likes to crossdress for fun...I wish there was good term to describe it...fairweather crossdressing, heterosexual drag...

[Elizabeth 66]

I am a Crossdresser! I freely admit it, and am proud to do so. I am NOT transgendered or transsexual and have no desire to be either one.

There is no desire in me to actually become a woman! I just like to wear the same clothing that real women wear! I really like the fit, the feel, and especially the look of feminine clothing on my body.

So who else on this forum feels like I do? I know there are some who go out in public in feminine clothes, but looking like a man. I do that myself, more so than I used to since I lost my wife to cancer! She always did my wig and my makeup! What I am looking for is pure CD's, who dress simply for the fun of wearing female clothing. Not for sex or any other reason! I know you are out there, so "fess" up now!

I looked up the definition of transgender in the Oxford dictionary, and it states thus:

Dictionary:trans·gen·der (trăns-jĕn'dər, trănz-)

Appearing as, wishing to be considered as, or having undergone surgery to become a member of the opposite sex.

Where as the definition of Transexual is thus

Dictionary:trans·sex·u·al (trăns-sĕk'shū-əl)

One who wishes to be considered by society as a member of the opposite sex or One who has undergone a sex change.

I would consider myself as the latter, not that it makes any difference, because everyone on this site is a friend to the other

Dictionary:friend (frĕnd)

A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; a comrade.
One who supports, sympathizes with, or patronizes a group, cause, or movement

And as friends, should we be putting labels on ourself s or others?

[Debutante]

I thought I was a crossdresser, but the pull towards something deeper and transformative always happens: towards trying to emulate the female in deeper ways, feel, think, be her. Call this a T-girl, or a spiritual journey... I want to have fun in the clothes, but I look at the deeper meanings and feelings.

[Soriya]

For me, I am just a crossdresser using the terms given. I have no interest in being full time and would just like to go back and forth between male and female mode. Like others have said, only change I plan on making is weight, whihc I have been doing anyway

[Brenda Freeman]

I love wearing womens clothes they feel fantastic, and dressing fully as a woman gives me a feeling of total happiness, I feel special when I am dressed as a woman! I love looking at nice looking women (GG's) not so much to ogle but to enjoy their look, shape and how they wear their clothes and walk and their mannerisms. Occasionally have gone out in public and find it exciting! I admit that if I had breasts that could fill out a bra I would love that, but what would I do with them when not dressed? I am a crossdresser? Whatever, I love dressing as a woman! That much I do know!

[Kierci]

Yes I am acrossdresser. I wear only female clothing, I have no male clothes.
I have no desires to be a woman, I just love there clothes so I wear them.
Although I do get all dolled up on occasion and go out, it is a rarity, as it is just too much bother.

I'm with Lisa on this one no mens clothes but have no desire to chop my body parts off.

[jenna_woods]

that's me all the way, just the way I look at my self, a crossdeeresser and NOTHING MORE

[ReineD]

I wonder how many of these "love being a man" responses are due to a wife or girlfriend that may be looking over the shoulder, so to speak.

I know a lot of "girls" here have their SO's on with them, either openly or lurking

Misty, the number of GG members here represents a minute percentage of all the TGs. And it's hard to tell for sure, but I also think there's a large number of TGs whose wives don't know, so the wives wouldn't be here lurking.

[rocketscientist]

My male genitalia and sex drive is the one thing about me I do enjoy. My TS girlfriends who are going all the way say that the first things to go are desire to have and ability to have. NO THANKS!

I'm totally with you on this one, girlfriend! Hugs, Tonya

[Denise Somers]

WOW!! What a thought-provoking thread if one takes the time to read all the pages this thread has spanned so far. The one that caught my eye, and had the greatest effect, I believe was what mklinden2010 said both for its overall frankness as well as the doubt it casts on the accuracy of labels. I am close to 50 and first wore a pair of my mother's high heels when I was 10 and remember clearly buying my first pair in 1978. I knew I had an affinity for female clothes, listening to girls talk, and reading about women's issues but never wanting to become one. I went through the Navy, got married, had kids, all the while knowing there was a female side to me. I enjoy the truly fantastic feel of women's clothes, adore the way the sun makes my toenail color pop, feel exhiliarated at hearing stiletto heels click the pavement, and feel I listen better and am a more polite person when dressed as a woman. I like to commenting on women's nail polish or a top they are wearing or the shoes they have on. I do and enjoy all these things but also like being the man I was born. I've had a moustache for 30 years, like fishing, tinkering with things, building sheds, digging habitat ponds, and sitting in the stands in either sideways snow or rain in temperatures well below freezing to support my football team. We all like the look and feel of women's clothes. Would we, with our dresses, earrings, makeup, and heels also like the traditionally lower pay that women tend to get for the same job performed, or the cat calls or other boorish comments that are directed towards women?? And how about those monthly issues? I supoose I enjoy the best of what both offer but am basically content to be a man. I can go up to my land in far northern Wisconsin alone and nothing will happen. Genetic women however have to think how they travel places and usually do it in pairs. The common denominator here is we all like those clothes and shoes, definitely, but wonder what word best describes each one of us. That word should be acceptance. I accept the good-hearted soul who only dresses at home and tells about it, the male who mixes some female items like fem jeans or wedge sandals and walks into the world as such, the person who on Monday greeted the world as Jerry and on Tuesday greeted it as Jeanette, and finally the person born one gender who must get surgery to match how they feel. All human beings and all here at the same point in time at different places on the spectrum. Acceptance is the most valuable and amicable currency we can ever devise.

Denise S.