As you mentioned wanting some clarification as to where on the spectrum:
I am currently partially in the closet, my little sister and some friends know. I consider CDing part gender-identity and part self expression. I don't really mind being a genetic male, kinda like it most of the time actually. But in ebbs and flows comes femininity that I like to express. Or simply put, I do not plan to transition to any degree.
Answer proper:
I would love to come out to everybody as it gets tiresome having to censure myself and at times I push the envelope out of frustration or tiredness. Though it hasn't always been the case, I have found peace with not being to express or revel my gender variant nature. Probably because I realized a few years ago I would eventually reach a place where I was comfortable or just plain fed up enough to tell all that matter most.To me, telling my family before they hear from someone else is paramount.
I would like to write of the rest of world and say I wouldn't care, but I worry about my families and my personal professional life. I doubt that anything truly heinous would happen, most likely nothing even tangible, but it worries me. I am pretty non-confrontational in general so if it would be too much an issue I would most likely not dress for work or a family event if it would make others significantly uncomfortable.