HRT and Your Little Friend

[Veronica Nowakowski]

well, I'm curious about everything now. There seems to be more options. I don't want to transition all the way for external reasons. I would like to be authentic, though even then there are things I want to consider. But I want to know all the options.

I don't like the idea of anyone deciding for me, I just want the facts. I appreciate those who have done just that.

[Myojine]

i hate my penis, i ****in hate it. im almost appaled at you calling it your little "friend" but you sent me some stuff on yahoo for voice traing so realy i cant say much more then thank you...
anyways i was "Blessed" with a fiarly sizable one according to my jelous army buddies, even one of them getting pissed when he found out i was a transrabbit*whos siggy says that?*, and that i was just going to "waste" it.
oh well more depth for me and my male partners when i undergo SRS . i hate it, its noticeable in tight jeans... i was THRILLED i could fit into size 3 jeans and they made my ass Look AWSOME but my damn "friend" totaly ruined the looks. i cant wait till the stupid thing is a vaginal canal/clitoris instead.
anyways story over, im wondering what the deal is with sex drive, and how it works after all that.

[Veronica Nowakowski]

Let me explain something.... I used "little friend" as a euphamism because this forum is very puritanical in that sense.

[Myojine]

Let me explain something.... I used "little friend" as a euphamism because this forum is very puritanical in that sense. The word "pee" was censored in appropriate context (actually will probably be censored again).

i understand that
but MEN call it there "little friend" and from the looks of it your not one anymore or would at this time not be one, i dunno maybe my perception is a little whacked from the ive been doing lately.
personally i dont care wtf HRT does to it as long as when i go into SRS, i come out with a fully functional vagina/clit, andd that finally feeling that im absolutely no longer male whatsoever.

excuse my hatered for men, but last time i checked it was fairly warrented, God only knows why the hell i wanna loose my virginity to one...

[Veronica Nowakowski]

It's sounding like implants would cost me around $5k. That brings a serious question of whether I want to finally visit Egypt or get implants in the next year.

[Karen564]

[SIZE=2]Answer = Thialand.......then you can do both...[/SIZE]

[Veronica Nowakowski]

Seeing that it would be for a large part a religious pilgrimage, I doubt that would work. There's no Great Pyramid or Temple of Luxor in Thailand, and I can't time travel to ancient Egypt where they'd be accepting with modern technology to get the operation...... So it's a dillema.

[TerryTerri]

When you say sex on the brain, do you mean physically? Or sending out sexual signals, with body language, create attraction. I've never quite understood this notion.

I'm at a lose of how to describe it. If you've never been 'off' testosterone I don't think you can understand it and if you have I think you do. Any other girls here know how to descrie it any better than my 'lame' non-explanation?

[pamela_a]

It's sounding like implants would cost me around $5k. That brings a serious question of whether I want to finally visit Egypt or get implants in the next year.

What do you want more? It's merely a matter of priortizing. If the trip is more important to you then you take the trip.

That's one of the difficult things about life...having to make choices.

[Karen564]

It's sounding like implants would cost me around $5k. That brings a serious question of whether I want to finally visit Egypt or get implants in the next year.

[SIZE=2]Like Pam mentioned, it boils down to what you want more....[/SIZE]
[SIZE=2]I mentioned Thailand because it's a little cheaper over there than here so you could possibly swing both now if you had the time & money..[/SIZE]

[SIZE=2]Over there it would cost approx. $3500. (for an reputable surgeon) plus airfare & accomidations...you'd have to stay there for approx. 4-6 days for post-op recovery..BTW, the resort hotels are very inexepensive....but RT air fare will run approx 1K+..[/SIZE]

[crystalann]

When I went to Thailand in 09 airfare was $1100 hotel ran $29.00 a day and the implants $2500. Over here my doctor wanted just over $3500

[kellycan27]

I paid 5,000.00 in Thailand, but I got the super deluxe boobs, and along with them the envy of all of my g/f's , gg's and cder's.

[Karen564]

I paid 5,000.00 in Thailand, but I got the super deluxe boobs, and along with them the envy of all of my g/f's , gg's and cder's.

[SIZE=2] Yup, I can confirm that it's very True...They really are awesome....[/SIZE]

[Linda Z]

well, I'm curious about everything now. There seems to be more options. I don't want to transition all the way for external reasons. I would like to be authentic, though even then there are things I want to consider. But I want to know all the options.

I don't like the idea of anyone deciding for me, I just want the facts. I appreciate those who have done just that.

Try not to be caughtup in the hate this or that stuff.

Yes, authentic, is nice, I like my self and all my parts, with 3 kids, and a real A cups. BA is nice, you get what you want, right now, but not for me, Life is a balance, plan well, have some luck, you may get to where you want to be. I like the real softness of E also and i still take care of my wife. no T blocker here.

You seem to be doing your research well, keep going, research everything!
then go research the Doctors, some are one or the other sex only, watch out.
You may need more than one doctor.

find your place, be happy!

Linda Z

[morgan pure]

Veronica,

Almost 2 years, Es but no Spiro, on and off Pro. I had to stop the Pro because it enhances breast development too much and I'm nowhere near transitioning. Testicles have shrunk dramatically. Fewer spontaneous erections, but still get hard sometimes. Sex drive diminished but not gone. I still have a pretty gay mindset and like sex with guys.

But in the long run Es will ruin your penis, and girls like hard penises, so it would ruin your chances of marriage and a family. What if you did it for a year just to feminize your body? I think you would get too used to it to stop. I love my new breasts, but the emotional change has been the most marked. Even though most pop gender lit is way off the mark, hormones DO affect the brain. Quantifying that effect is of course problematic, but one thing I can say for sure is that I'm tearier easier than I was 2 years ago.

OH! And I finally told my doctor! Thank God, she hardly blinked, and asked me all the right questions and ordered all the right tests. I'm so glad that I did it.

Morgan Pure

[Kaitlyn Michele]

New here, first post. Interesting thread, lots of thoughtful replies.

My goals mirrored yours when I started electolysis five years ago, but..............

Less than a year after starting electro, I was in therapy, began HT, had FFS last year, name change, DL gender marker change, successfully found a new job and completed my RLT. I paid GRS cost and booked my flight yesterday. My surgery is scheduled early May 2010.

If someone had a crystal ball and told me five years ago I'd be where I am now, I would have shrugged and said "yea right, never happen."

Good luck.

yep...i know that story...

[Soriya]

Hi Veronica,

If I may offer my none HRT and transsexual point of view....

If keeping your member intact and be able to have children in that capacity is a concern you have, then having side effects from HRT may do more non-physical things to you. I have been a Type 1 Diabetic for 16 years now and along with it, I have experienced sexual dysfunction at periods of time due to my diabetes. It doesn't help the fact that my testosterone levels seem to jump all over the map either but never into what is considered a range where I needed testosterone replacement. this is also more then likely a side effect of being diabetic which causes a lot of circulation problems. Why I mention this is because being someone who enjoys being a man, having issues down there has done much harm to my mind and confidence. At times it has been very difficult for me, wondering if I will have a full erection or if I can sustain a good one right before I am about to have sex. This usually compounds the issue making it more likely that I will have a problem, not to mention cause me to not enjoy myself because I am to worried if I am going to be able to perform at all. Sure things like Viagra work but for some, that can lead to bouts of depression as well since with some, they start to question their 'manhood' so to speak. Just something to think about if you truly still want to function as a man in that capacity as HRT will no doubt cause erectile dysfunction.

As far as breasts implants, speaking from the man side, my ex-wife had them done a few years back. What was important for her was the right Dr. She shopped around not for price, but rather quality and the Dr, she picked, told her that he would not give her anything that was 'too big'. He told her his personal policy was to create a natural looking breast package and thus hers look real. Nobody she knows or meets never suspects they are fake. Hers are also filled with a saleen solution I think and again being from the man side, they felt and moved close to real. She loves them.

Just a few things to think about

XO

Soriya

[kellycan27]

How about this.. You can have your cake and eat it too! manwoman.jpg

[Stephenie S]

I thought it kinda cute. It's amazing what we can do with computers.

[Veronica Nowakowski]

I think that may be a Halloween costume, not a photoshop work.

[Genifer Teal]

Here is how I see it from my perspective. If your sex drive goes down, along with your ability to get it up, it is like saying, how can you miss what you no longer want. I believe that at the same time you start to loose it, you will want it less. To some extent it might equal out. Now if you have those obligations someone mentioned, then someone else might miss it.

Gen

[kellycan27]

Here is how I see it from my perspective. If your sex drive goes down, along with your ability to get it up, it is like saying, how can you miss what you no longer want. I believe that at the same time you start to loose it, you will want it less. To some extent it might equal out. Now if you have those obligations someone mentioned, then someone else might miss it.

Gen

That's kind of the rub for those who are involved with another person.
I have been on HRT for close to three years now, and though I no longer have erections, my sex drive is pretty high. I can achieve very satisfying sex, only now it is more of an emotional rather than physical thing. What makes it easier for me is that I don't have to perform the male part. I hope this isn't TMI for some of you, if so.. my apologies in advance.

[Jennifer in CO]

Veronica,
See a doctor (Physiologist). Best would be one with trans gender experience. Then see another doctor (Endocrinologist). Tell them what you want to do. These days, the first will authorize the second to do something if they agree with you that your not out to do harm to yourself. As far as things working post HRT, its all been said before...it probably wont. I got lucky in that I started on the T blocker (kidney medication) before I started male puberty (I was a late bloomer thankfully) so I "grew up" but never really developed.
There is nothing wrong with wanting natural breasts and with fat distribution (if either happens) and your adams apple shaved, you will be able to present as a woman and for the most part will be what some consider a "non-Op" transsexual. Its your life. But for OUR sake as friends, see professionals to guide you to and through your decisions.

Jenn

[Veronica Nowakowski]

I'm already in therapy, and the therapist will be replacing me with her supervisor when she leaves at the end of this month, so at that point it would be an actual doctor. My therapist does have some TG experience and is giving me to her supervisor because she would be the best suited for it. I have not, however, seen an endocrinologist. I don't know if I'm at that point yet.

[Linda Z]

I'm already in therapy, and the therapist will be replacing me with her supervisor when she leaves at the end of this month, so at that point it would be an actual doctor. My therapist does have some TG experience and is giving me to her supervisor because she would be the best suited for it. I have not, however, seen an endocrinologist. I don't know if I'm at that point yet.

you might also see a doctor that is a specialist in sexual medicine, and then have he/she lead the others to support the direction you two decide to go.


Linda