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    If you're NOT sure whether or not your CDing is MAINLY about sex;

    It ISN'T!

    "Dressing to relax!?"
    Yeah! That'll be the day!

    Just THINKING about the girl Sherry will become next, is very stimulating for me. When I start dressing, the excitement and an----ti-----ci----pa------tion just keep building.
    Until a completed female image is in my mirror!

    If the day comes that I DON'T get turned on by CDing, I may just give it up!

    Since I'm over 60 now, that day MAY be coming!
    U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.

    Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!

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    Quote Originally Posted by brittdoll View Post
    It's a bit of both for me.
    I'm very much the same. But in actuality, I think it's more sexual for me.

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    mixed feelings for me, but initially when i am dressed i am abit more frisky and aroused!

    but there are days where it just more comfy to be in female clothes, especially nighties and gowns for bed!

    I do wear panties daily!

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    It just feels normal. Nothing sexual about it.

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    Wink Evolution

    It started one way and then evolved. I guess I am happy as a "well balanced" gender, I would be comfy as a man or woman, but got all the advantage as I am, a little of each. When I finally realized that fem was part of me all the time, I found some peace (I also upgraded my drab wardrobe).
    I love doing guy things and dressing girlie girl.
    Shari

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    i have so many ideas but when it comes down to it i just feel so good dressed

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    I started because it was something that felt natural to me. With the discovery of pornography my cross dressing turned into something sexual. Recently I've been moving away from a sexual act to feeling like it's "right." I still enjoy having some sexual thrill to it but it's been slowly changing to "right" and not just a cheap thrill. I've tried to rationalize it many ways but I've found that I just like dressing like a woman.

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    cross dressing? sexual? or just because?

    all i can say for my self sex has nothing to do with my dressing, I like wearing preaty things,and love wearing heals.

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    I don't think I can say it's purely sexual. I enjoy dressing, putting-on makeup, and trying to be beautiful without being excited sexually. I can dress, sit at home with a plate of cheese, a bottle of wine and a good movie, and just relax.

    On the other hand, I can have tremendous sexual urges when I'm in a narcissistic phase, and the ballet slippers and flouncy skirt and silk blouse disappear to be replaced by 4" stiletto shoes with vamp straps, black body stocking, long goth gloves, and some ****ty eye makeup, and that inevitably leads to the full length mirror, the remote exposure camera, and the euphemistic 'ya no.'

    I am active sexually with men, but that's a different dynamic. I enjoy being held by a man, and having his hands and lips on my face and body, and I enjoy very much being the feminine receptive partner during the sex act itself. But, as much of the pleasure is psychological as physical, since during coitus is when I feel most like a woman.

    I don't dress like a vamp **** for men: Some variation on the classic ensemble of a black cocktail dress, a strand of pearls and pearl earrings, some good stockings, and a pair of 9 West black, three inch pumps, is what I wear on dates, or when I'm out cougaring. So, I'd have to say that my sexiest and most outrageously whorish outfits are either for myself or for other TV/CD who are similarly in their Tramp Mode, because that's when I'm most likely to be in a Red Zone looking for sex.

    Just as an aside, since it's not precisely apropos to this thread, if I'm just hangin' with friends I'm asexual, blue jeans, loafers, chambray shirts and black turtle necks, levi denim jean vests, and the only femme/masculine differences are the wig, the ornateness of the earrings, and the makeup. The odd thing is that when I'm dressed like that I get hit on by guys whether or not I'm wearing makeup, etc. The curse of being a pretty boy or a handsome woman.

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    Not quite sure how to answer

    I wore my first girdle at about 13 or 14 and loved the control and how it made me feel. I was very upset I did not have my own. Wearing my mother's skirt suit was a real highlight. When I got old enough to buy my own I bought stockings too, like 3 different sizes because I had no clue what size I needed. The first time I slept like that in a girdle and stockings it was wonderful how my body and legs glided over the sheets. Later adding a silky night gown was like heaven. The rest came over time however I still consider a girdle part of me always. Going to the doctor and not wearing a girdle is a bummer. Over time I also started noticing women and their accessories like necklaces and earings. Not to mention shoes and glasses. I have no idea why I look at some women and think GREAT shoe selection and others, what were you thinking. I always compliment women on their shoes and glasses. I think most like it. I LOVE when the compliment comes back. I finished writing, it's sensual.

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    In the beginning I think it mostly was sexual (at least that is the only thing I remember), but as my dressing evolved I would say it's more about getting a feeling of content, i.e. it feels good and natural to dress up. However, I do have noticed that I have different emotional and sexual feelings and fantasies when I'm dressed as male vs en femme. So probably a little bit of both ...

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    It started sexual when an ex left some clothes behind, but now
    with my own clothes it just feels right and evolving each day. Started
    with a thong, now I need another closet!

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    Wow. this thread really has touched a chord with many of us. Me too.
    At first as an early teen it was very sexual and directed toward the look and feel of the clothing. For me too it has gradually evolved. There is still a sexual aspect to it (espceially if I havent dressed in a while) but now it is more about exploring my feminine side, feminine behaviour, working on my body etc.It is less about the actual clothing now and much less about any "sexual" satisfaction. It's personal satisfaction by being myself....Dee

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    For me when I started it was for fun, then as I got older it had a sexual satisfaction to it, now I dress for fun, comfort and because I love feeling femine. I have no desire to have sex with a man though I will not turn my wife down if she wants to have sex with me as her girlfriend, LOL.

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    This morning while driving to work, I remembered when I was a teenager and I slipped on my mom's nightgown and panties while my folks were away for the weekend. I remember what a sexual charge I got out of it, it felt like I crossed the great divide and into new territory. There was such a sense of mystery, taboo-ness, and sensualness from feeling sheer nylon tricot & silk.


    Now there seems to be less or no sexual thrill, not that I can't make it so, but it has become more my personal style and an embodiment of who I am and want to be. Now I wear what I like because I like it. Every time I take my shoes & socks off, and I notice my toenails are magenta, I say to my self "oh, how cute!", then I somehow completely forget about it. There's no sexual charge there, it's just "hey, I like it".

    I love watching women shop. They seem so unbound and free, and go wherever their impulses lead them. Even when they're shopping to impress people with their outfits, they indulge and immerse themselves for their own satisfaction. That's how I want to be.

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    My first memory of dressing is from when I was 4 years old, at that time there was nothing sexual about it. Wearing my Grandmother's pantyhose was simply something that I felt I wanted to do.

    As I grew older, the urges were still there. I simply wanted to wear anything I could get my hands on at the time. It progressed to the point of painting my toes for the very first time when I was 13 years old or so, and later experimenting with make-up. Confusing things even further was discovering my interest in dating girls. However, something in the back of my mind was telling me that instead of wanting to date the pretty girls, I maybe secretly wanted to be them. Confounding things even further was discovering copies of Penthouse and Playboy that my Dad had hidden in his dresser drawers. Wow! I went out fully dressed for the first time when I was 17.

    Coming of age in my late 20s allowed me to explore the sexual side of crossdressing. Since my Mom's DNA seems to have dominated, I definitely had the edge in passing rather well. Long story short, I actually had the prescription for HRT in my hands and filled -- I tossed them after a moment of clarity where I realized that I didn't want to live to a ripe old age as a transgendered woman.

    For me, there was a definite sexual motivation and thrill to dressing. We all have our reasons for doing what we do, the inner peace of mind comes from being able to balance the fantasy with the reality.

    Patti

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    It started as a sexual thing for me but now a few years later sex has little to do with it. I just enjoy being dressed as a woman when the opportunity is available (like right now). All the little things seem to add up to one very enjoyable experience. I have given up trying to understand why, just enjoy the time I get.

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    To me I like wearing because I feel good wearing the clothes..
    This is what I mean by "every guy can look like a girl from the right angles".. this is one of the first pictures of me dressed up.. very vague look.. almost fem...

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    For me it started too young for it to be sexual. Have to admit wearing the clothes, sexy underwear and makeup does get it going though. Lucky for me I have a support spouse.

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    In my mind there is a very sexual component to it!

    I look at my wife with extreme desire, so I want to look in the mirror same!!

    As Christine has matured I do see a better thing in the mirror and acceptance at home has helped.

    I too was 9 when I first cross dressed. I asked my mom if I could go out as a girl for halloween! I have forever wished it was not just a halloween trick! I guess for me Hallowwen comes many times a year now
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    Dressing isn't sexual for me. I mean yeah I have sex dressed but that's not why. Being dressed like a girl is more comfortable and, to me, more appropriate. And even with sex it just feels like I'm in the correct position.
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    Yes, definitely sexual for me in a wonderful and profound way.
    In fact, in my early crossdressing years I would have never
    imagined that dressing up could not involve a sexual aspect to it.
    The arousal and drive was simply overwhelming and powerful.
    Interestingly, though, as the years go on, the sexual component
    remains but is not the sole and inevitable focus of my crossdressing.
    Now, I crossdress occasionally due to the need for sexual arousal
    and many times just for the wonderful feelings of calm, exploration
    and transformation.
    What a long strange trip, indeed.

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    To me I was pushed into it when I was young 10.My older sister had no friends and I played with her Alot.When time came that she got I just carried on.I Like it alot but been working all the time i Just dont get to do Anything.

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    I believe the two are one and the same. I feel very much the same way about CDing - it definitely gets me sexually stimulated by making me feel more like a woman and getting my closer in touch with my inner womanly self. It is the inner woman expressing herself and asking to be set free. I am always wearing lingerie, day and night, both under my menswear when in public, and with make-up, heels, and pretty girly things at night in the privacy of my room.
    I think you should continue exploring this female side of yourself by letting her express herself as freely as she pleases.
    Johanne

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    When I started cross dressing it was almost purely a sexual, forbidden fruit sort of thing. Now it is less this and more about the clothes, comfort and being a girl.

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