1) mostly stress relief, but some fantasy also
2) yes
3) I am more attracted to my wife
I dress because the girl inside me loves to feel and look like a girl from time to time. My wife knows that I dress and would rather that I did not, or at least not as often. I love my wife way more than i could ever love myself (and I have a big ego), so Andrea will always take a back seat to her. Andrea
1. it just feels right. it is very hard to explain
2. i was. and she did o.k. with it for a year ,
and all of a sudden i had to throw of my stuff out
or we would get a divorce .so now i have hidding it for
a while now. (what will be will be) and i realy love my wife.
3. yes
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
Cos I look terrible naked
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Yes, see answer #1
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
We work like a pair of magnets, attracting each other
Listen carefully to what is said, quite often you can hear what is not being said
The joy of correcting a mistake can bring pain to another
For me it is entirely relaxing. I feel like I am expressing more of myself; what is really inside of me.
I am one that firmly believes that a marriage should be completely open. My wife knows everything and always has, at least within the limits of what I could verbalize and understand myself at the time.
I am not attracted to my girl side. There is no part of it that I do to sartisfy an attraction to myself.
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
I have felt drawn towards it since I was very young. I don't really feel as if I am truely being myself without it. I still think and act the same regardless of what I'm wearing but when dressed I feel like I am being honest about myself to the world.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
I introduced the idea to my wife very early into our relationship, and my honesty paid off with fantastic support from her. She has given me skirts, underwear, jewellry and makeup for Christmas, shaped my eyebrows and borrowed my tights on numerous occasions! I feel very lucky and blessed to have her in my life.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
I think they are different things. I am sexually attracted to my wife, where as I don't feel like I'm really myself without the clothes.
I am only a cross dresser when I don't crossdress!
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Why do I dress? I love the feeling I get from it,it is part of me and suppressing it brought me alot of grief when I tried to stop. Am I totlally honest, no, but we have made alot of progress in the last year which has made the relationship better. Dressing was a huge problem for years in our relationship. Yes I am very,very much attracted to my wife, always will be.
1. Everything feels right when I dress. It is the only time that I feel completely right.
2. My SO, who is wonderful person, would divorce me in a minute if she knew. I have led a rich CD life hidden from her for many years.
3. I am very attracted to my SO. I do not know what the comparison of her to my female side means. I would be insanely happy in a world where I could be my female self with her.
#1) I wear them because like many of you have said,I like the feel,the colors,the texture,the way they feel and the way I look in them. That doesn't mean that I pass as female only that I like what I have on. I know I could never pass even on a dark night dresed in black!
#2) Yes, my wife knows.She tolerates it but doesn't really encourage it.
#3) I like who I am in these clothes but I don't even to pretend that there is a
another "person". I am who I am. I really love my wife much more than the clothing . I
wear it for me and would give it up in a second if my marriage started to fall apart. Based on the complex problems life throws out everyday, giving up clothing is pretty simple.
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
I like looking nice and in my eyes feminine = nice, pretty, and attractive.
it also helps relive stress, but Kayaking, target shooting, and romance with my wife also relive stress.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Yes I have to be honest with her she is my cohort in crime
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
I think I can look nice and maybe even attractive but I cant do to me what I can do to my wife
so I have t say that I am more attracted to my wife.
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I have so many answers for #1. I think the real answer is that It just feels right. Like it should have always been this way.
I would love to be open with my wife. She knows, but it's one of those out of sight, out of mind deals.
I find my wife as hot to me as the day I met her 34 years ago.
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
Good question-I have no idea.... lol! I gave up trying to find a reason years ago. doesn't matter, I enjoy it!
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Yes, I believe to have a good marriage, it requires complete honesty. This goes for other "alternative" things we do as well.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Much more attracted to my wife than my girl-side. I try to avoid narcissism anyway.... lol
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
Because it's so much fun to do it! I just like the way it looks and feels on my body.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Yes, I am.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
My girl side and boy side are the same, but I'm more attracted to my partners than I am with myself.
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1) I'm drawn to it. I've always wanted to "be pretty," and this is it. I haven't discovered if there's anything serious beyond that yet, though I'm fair certain I'm not TS material.
2) Totally - she knew way before we were married. We don't nnecessarily volunteer absolutely everything, but when it comes up, it's open. If it's important, it's asked about.
3) Partner >> girl side
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
It feels right, it feels good, it's what belongs.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
I don't have an SO to deceive.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
No partner to be attacted to
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
Because it feels good to me and is an extension of who I am as a person.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Yes my baby knows everything there is to know about me and Kiera.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
I love my SO very much but at the same time I love Kiera also. Even though we are one in the same I find that we are two. I have things that I like as a GM but, in the same notion Kiera has things she likes as a GG. Sounds weird I know but it is true.
1) no clue, just do
2) yup, we share everything
3) I don't have a girl-side. I'm just me
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
I don't know for sure, But I do know that I feel more relaxed and more myself when dressed.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Yes I am totally open with her about it.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Not so much anymore, I was was, but her total lack of desire has pretty much pushed me away.
my sister's reply when I told her how I prefer to dress
"Everyone has there thing, all that matters is that you are happy, love what you do and who you do it with"
1) I was always embarrassed about my lack of traditional male attributes. When I was a boy I looked like a girl with one (very small) addition. I have always been able to wear female clothing with no adjustments.
2) I used to be but after a time I realised it made her uncomfortable and so I do it when she is not around. She knows I do.
3) When I am dressed, I have no male-type desires - for myself or anyone else.
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
It just feels good, comforting, kind of like seeing an old friend.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
I'm married, and came out six months into our three year courtship. Right, now, I'm probably 95% honest. If I'm dressed, and she comes home, I feel really embarrassed, still, but she ensures me that I don't need to be. I also have a desire to go out dressed (in other towns/cities), that she doesn't accept/encourage/authorize. It causes tension, and except for a couple of partial dressing situations in remote cities, have respected her.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Absolutely, she's hot.
-Sedona
1) I like the look and feel of the clothes and how I feel when I wear them. I've described it before as it scratches and itch I can not otherwise reach.
2) During the reign of my first wife I didn't wear or have anything. During our breakup one time in storage I tried on one her dresses that looking back I should have kept. She never knew and to this day I believe would use it ammo against me. For the current love of my life while it took some time to get there she knows all and is as included as she wishes to be.
3) I don't really have a boy side/girl side. We tried that as a means of separating things until it seemed to me that it was easier to dislike/disparage the girl side and since there in my head is only one real me and the sting from the heat burned the boy side as much as it did the girl so she had to go. If the question is do I love my wife more than myself, yes. We discussed at length whether or not I could not be a cross dresser. I could make the choice never to dress again. I can not make the choice not to want to or promise that it wouldn't cause hurt and resentment on my part. She felt that it would be unfair of her to ask that of me and we worked together for our compromise.
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1- I like the way what I wear feels on me and I feel more relaxed wearing what I wear.
2- I told my girlfriend about my cross-dressing early in our relationship and she was and is supportive of me.
3- I am totally attracted to my girlfriend and I don't feel that it has any comparison to my cross-dressing.
Tomara