TG and TS people aren’t in love with themselves or their idea of themselves any more than other people. TG and TS people also don’t prefer masturbation to sex with other people any more than average. Good sexual relationships require mutual respect, mutual attraction, and sympathetic reciprocity. Finding compatible partners who truly respect and are truly attracted to TG and TS people can be difficult. I am not inclined to blame TG and TS people for their real or imagined relationship problems. There is much more wrong with how cispeople think about transpeople than how transpeople think about themselves. Try spotting the potential relationship problem in that context.
