Every boy does it?

[Elizabeth Ann]

I have always thought of myself as a "late onset crossdresser." I never seriously dressed as a woman until my 50's. Moreover, I never had any desire to do so until then.

Recently, however, I told my therapist (who is not a CD specialist. I went for depression) that I had the "usual boyhood fascination with women's underwear." I jokingly said that it was a sexual fetish brought on by my only source of pornography: the Sears and Roebuck catalog. I would occasionally put on panties, but that was it. Bras were Terra Incognita.

I was surprised when she disagreed with me. Sure, all boys have a fascination with lingerie, she said, but not many put them on.

Now I know this is exactly the opposite group to poll on this, but I don't really want to go around to all my male buddies asking if they ever wore panties as a boy. So I am asking you all if my therapist is correct. I really, honestly thought that this was a typical thing for boys to do with the bathroom door locked. It felt like it had nothing to do with me and everything to do with females.

I have a bad premonition about the answers I am going to get, but please remember that I am not asking about you or your motivation, but whether you thought, or had any evidence that most boys played with panties from time to time.

Thanks,
Liz

[sandra-leigh]

Dunno -- the only point of comparison I really have is me.

I do not clearly remember putting on panties, but considering the things I do clearly remember, it would have been surprising if I didn't. I did not, however, have any fascination with the Sears Roebuck catalog's womens sections.

[BRANDYJ]

From various things I've read over the years, I think your therapist is wrong. Kids do experiment with sexual things. Some at a very early age if not at the onset of puberty. This includes trying on lingerie. Most of course don't get hooked on it and move on. It's well known that little boys might even experiment with other boys,(maybe even a few girls) but the majority don't become gay or bisexual.
If you could poll non crossdressing males, I think most would not admit it. Us males have to protect that macho image and all.

[Angiemead12]

chances are the answers you will get from the forum are yes they have tried it on as a kid and got hooked.

If you ask some manly men, then they will probably deny it!

[StaceyJane]

Yes, I tried on my mom's underwear when I was a teenager.

[suchacutie]

I'm also in the situation that I never even thought of having a feminine side until my 50s (As I sit here is my new wig (not sure I like it at all) a lovely teal dress, shoes to match, etc).

However, the first panties I ever tried on was in y 50s, they were my wife's, and it had nothing to do with crossdressing (yes, it was THAT kind of thing!). But, it was only 3 years later that I first dressed totally for my wife, and that was X dressing!

I'm probably unusual for CDs in general!

tina

[NicoleScott]

I'd be surprised if more than a small percentage of boys didn't want to try something femme on. But how many would admit to it?
It wasn't panties for me, it was lipstick and high heels. And different things for others. I would bet that the desire (but not necessarily the act) is present in nearly all boys at some time.

[Angie G]

I put on skirts and dresses long before I got my hands on any panties.
Angie

[Deborah Jane]

I started dressing when I was a kid, but don't know if my friends tried it because it never crossed my mind to ask them.

[Super Amanda]

I used to work in a floor tile warehouse, operating a forklift and working around "manly men" both customers and fellow employees.

Near the end of my time there, I thought I was getting close to coming out, and had dressed that Halloween, making it three years in a row.

I made sure the next day to "accidentally" mention my "costume" the next day to the guys, and I just happened to have a few cell phone pics as proof.

First comment after passing around my phone: "You look better than ****** wife!" ... inside I was ecstatic...then to my surprise came the confessional moment... "My sisters used to dress me up sometimes" and "I've dressed like a girl before, no big deal" and the most shocking story from a particularly manly co-worker about a make out session with a "friend" dressed up as a woman at a club!

So, I think given the fact that they had just saw pics of me fully done up, let them, if only for the span of that conversation, drop the tough guy act for a moment.

So yes, my answer is yes. I think wayyyyy more guys do it than will EVER admit it!

[Kate Simmons]

Every boy wants to initially be like Mom. Where else does he learn about caring and sharing and family values? Somewhere along the line, most decide they want to conform to what the other guys are doing due to societal and peer pressure. We are the general exception to the rule and take being like Mom a step further.

[brassieres]

Every boy wants to initially be like Mom. Where else does he learn about caring and sharing and family values? Somewhere along the line, most decide they want to conform to what the other guys are doing due to societal and peer pressure. We are the general exception to the rule and take being like Mom a step further.

I was raised principally by women, that is probably where my desire comes from.

[ReineD]

I agree with your therapist. Although it is common for children to experiment about a number of things, boys who try on articles of women's clothing more than once or twice are likely predisposed to being CDs.

Following is an excerpt written by an expert on the subject, Dr. Ray Blanchard, Professor of Psychiatry, University of Toronto, in his book "Clinical management of gender identity disorders in children and adults", Chapter 3.

http://individual.utoronto.ca/ray_blanchard/GID_Men.pdf

Transvestite boys begin secret cross-dressing in childhood or puberty, rarely later than mid·adolescence. The first act of cross-dressing is sometimes preceded by a period of fascination with women's garments. Articles of c1othing - often, but not always, underwear - are usually borrowed without permission from a mother, sister, or other female in the household. The source of the clothing (e.g., mother versus sister) does not seem to have any special significance but rather appears a matter of opportunity and circumstance.

[sometimes_miss]

It's obvious that this is the wrong place to ask this question; but if it helps, it didn't occur to me to put on girls clothing until someone else did it to me. By age about three and a half to four, I knew wearing girls stuff was somehow not 'right', and refused to wear my sisters hand me downs anymore. When my mom had me wear her old panties that she had sewed blue and red stripes into, while I knew I had done it a lot when I was younger, it still felt wrong to do it, and I was always worried someone would notice. Of course, after someone started me along the path of thinking I was really a girl, it all sort of made perfect sense to wear girl clothing and why I was dressed that way so much when I was much younger. Sort of a horrible positive feedback loop of twisted logic.

[Cherry Lynn]

I was fascinated with the Sears & Roebuck catalog also as a young boy. I began trying on my moms panties and bras at a young age and also enjoyed wearing her high heels. Maybe your therapist is right.

[juno]

I agree with your therapist. Although it is common for children to experiment about a number of things, boys who do more than try on articles of women's clothing once or twice are likely predisposed to being CDs.

My guess is that trying panties once or twice at some point is common. Finding it pleasing is less common. It depend whether you count the children who tried it once on a whim and felt weird about it.

[NathalieX66]

I was eight when I was hanging with my across the street neighbor of the same age & and his likewise friends, and we found his older sisters' ballerina tutu/leotoard in the garage, Some of us boys wore it and took it as a joke. I tried it because I felt I had to.
It was just another outlet for me, not a formative experience. I was already there.

[ReineD]

My guess is that trying panties once or twice at some point is common. Finding it pleasing is less common. It depend whether you count the children who tried it once on a whim and felt weird about it.

That's what I meant. Trying something once or twice is common. But doing it more than that as you say indicates pleasure and an inclination to cross the gender barriers.

[Rachell]

I can remember getting in my sisters closet and trying on her dresses but not her panties or other underwear.I don't remeber doing that till I was in my twenty's and going through a tough time in my first marriage. I think your therapist is wrong
Rach

[mklinden2010]

Therapists are people. People are prone to inexact declarations. I don't think "all" boys play with panties. If just one, out of billions, doesn't, then the statement is false.

Most people, however, try all sorts of things, even if only in their heads, as they go through life. They touch things, taste things, see things, try to change things. It's how people figure out gravity, sweet and sour, hot and cold, big dogs and little dogs...

Each of us picks up things in life, and, puts things down in life. At any given time, we are doing, or, not doing something.

Seems like the older we get, the more likely we are to pick and keep some things, and not others. But, that just may be how things seem. In fact, we may change all our lives.

You didn't ask for CDers motivations. But, if things work for someone, they are liable to repeat, experiment, and improve on those things. One activity can conflict with another - and we may not be happy having to make choices.

But, that's life - you have to work it out to suit yourself, until you suit yourself, or, you just keep working at it... And working at it, and working at it, and, working at it.

There are times when it it wise to stop chasing oneself around a tree and to just enjoy the peace and quiet.

[Freddy12]

I can only speak for myself. I enjoyed seeing pictures of women in panties from an early age, but did not try any on until I was in my late teens. I surpressed the urge for years, but it has always resurfaced.

[Ellen James]

I know that I did it as an older boy and a young teen - I don't know that either of my brothers tried it as well. However, I know that one brother did try on some girl's clothing left by a cousin who stayed with us but I don't think that he continued his interest later.

[Engendered]

I never really saw the fascination with "panties". Dresses/skirts appealed to my sense of feminity as a kid, but not underwear. Probably because I was an overly innocent kid.

[Jenny Doolittle]

I have to disagree with you completely...... It was the JC Penny catalog!


Dreams of a little boy How nice those days were.

Oh. about your original question.... I cant speak for others, just me.

[Empress Lainie]

[SIZE=4]Like others I can only relate my own experience.
I had no brothers.
I remember wearing my sister's skirt when I was playing Greek Soldier in the 2nd or 3rd grade.
I wore my sister's dress when I was about 12 because she stole my pants and was wearing them.
I wore my sister's dress for halloween when I was 13 and enjoyed it.

Other than that I never had any CD desires, so I guess I am strange as a transexual woman, since it seems that many did do CD before they transitioned or began transition, at least from what I read on this site.

Sexual experience at about 8 4 or 5 us boys played as a train,
I hate to admit that it was my idea. We only did it once, in a ditch. A couple of other boys and I played fencing nude. But that was nothing sexual as was the original thing, We were all too young to know anything about sex..[/SIZE]