After reading a number of recent posts on coming out, it occurred to me that older, experienced CD/TGs may have valuable info for some younger ones!
Since MY compulsion to dress started later in life, I ONLY had to deal with the AVERAGE problems of a young man growing up.
It's hard for me to imagine trying to deal with gender identity issues at the same time!
I've read about young CDs trying on mom's or sis's clothes. Or, hiding their own somewhere in the house! Sneaking around to try things on! Wondering if they should TELL anyone about their urges? And WHO?
I've read posts from older CD/TGs. Whose compulsion is NOW tearing them apart! After years of denial, or simply not having a desire to dress!
It seems to me, no matter how difficult exploring your CD/TG issues may SEEM to be when you're young, it's MUCH MORE DIFFICULT later in life! When what u do, MAY directly affect SO MANY PEOPLE u care about!
I don't mean u should start wearing dresses to your history class. But, why not wear a little eye liner, or let your hair grow out? Or, whatever suits u? Just little hints to those around u, that you're a bit DIFFERENT now?
If u start doing that when you're YOUNG, friends and family won't feel so betrayed, or mislead, if u come out later.
Which is EXACTLY the problem I see older CDs having with their SOs, family, and friends. Because for many of them, the dressing comes out of left field!
I would appreciate input from older CD/TGs. Almost all of whom have MORE experience with this than I! And, I may be WAY off base here!
Would u recommend that young CD/TGs explore their gender, as well as sex issues, while they're young? Or, wait until later in life?