Originally Posted by
sometimes_miss
I got divorced in 1998; neither family nor friends had any positive reaction to the crossdressing. So, I no longer have any family contact other than the occasional holiday 'how are you doing' calls. I discovered all my friends weren't the type that I really wanted to be around (you know, the bigoted prejudiced type) and wound up with no one. I've had a couple gay female friends 'in passing', but once they were coupled up the friendship pretty much dried up. Like you, Marsea, I have little desire for male friends, but perhaps for different reasons. I simply don't trust men. I've never had any male friends that didn't take advantage of me in some way; I know men are very competitive by nature, and just don't want to have to be on my guard all the time.
Despite this being the 21st century, women still expect to be asked out by men, and many just won't make a phone call unless it's out of desperation such as when they need an escort for a wedding. So don't feel bad that they don't call you for stuff, in fact, be grateful that you have some that will say yes to ANY social interaction. I right now don't have anyone for that.
Your odds of finding a TG friendly woman are very, very slim. Women are attracted to alpha male traits; any display of female traits or behavior is usually a strong deterrent to any feelings of attraction. They only want 'sensitive', nurturing men when those qualities are an addendum to standard male behavior like leadership, physical strength (they like feeling safe), and well, just look up alpha male and you'll get the idea. Basically, women want a nasty, successful, dominant prick, but one that treats her nicely. They usually get just that; but the 'nicely' part fades away once he gets what he wants from her, usually sex until he finds a new 'target'. Then she gets disappointed, and the cycle repeats itself. But you won't find those women changing and looking for guys in dresses just because the last alpha male dumped all over her; she still believes in the fairy tale prince that will find her, marry her, and give her everything she wants, while he works his ass off, because 'he gets his satisfaction by providing for his wife and family'. What a joke.
There are no straight girl - crossdresser bars, clubs, or dating sites. None. That should tell you how many women are attracted to us. None. The few that advertise as cd dating sites are inhabited by 99.999999% men, and men posing as women. They do have a few ringers that will write to you to get you to pay up for a premium membership, but then the emails disappear (pretty much same as straight pay dating sites!).
So if you're interested in dating men, then you have possibilities. If you're interested in dating women, and are up front about the crossdressing, your chances are slim, very slim indeed. There are a few, but they're already taken, having their pick of the very best (read, attractive and successful) crossdressers out there. Your best bet are women who are otherwise undateable, and are willing to put up with your crossdressing because you're willing to put up with their negative traits: Perhaps drug or alcohol addiction, criminal activity, just plain physical bad looks, maybe a compulsive cheater that will use you as their 'home base' and comfort zone while they seek excitement elsewhere, or other revolting traits.
On that note, have a nice day.
even though I am single, just going to school & studying took all the little free time I once had to be social...so all I can do now is chat at school or on line with some friends...that's about it...[/SIZE]
