Originally Posted by
Ashley S
Anyway, this has got me feeling that I should just do what I want, and not worry about the neighbours. I don't want to feel like I have to hide in my apartment whenever I'm dressed.
I think that this is a common feeling and one that should encourage you; you aren't a freak and there is nothing morally, ethically, or legally (in most places) about your crossdressing.
No one at work knows that I dress, but since I don't want to transition, I don't think it should be an issue if they found out. I've worked there long enough to prove myself as a valuable employee, so why should they care what I do in my personal time, right?
If you're not worried about problems at work related to your crossdressing during your personal time, then you should feel free to do it. In my own case, even though I have come out to my grown children, my spouse, and a couple of my very closest friends, I would have problems at work if my employer and co-workers knew. So I dress at home, but I don't go out in my home town.
As it is, I've still never shopped en fem, and have only ventured out of the apartment maybe twice, but reading everyone's posts that are along the lines of "Get out and do it, the worries are all in your head" has really got me wanting to just do it.
My therapist has been great in helping me to know what it is that I want from my CDing and why I want to transition. She has also be wonderful in her way of letting me know that the world is not always safe for women and certainly not always safe for CDs. We have to be careful. However, with due caution (any woman would have to have some of this) and with sensible behavior, it can be wonderful to go out and have a good time.
It is better, if you can develop some CD and GG friendships, to go out with others (women typically go out in flocks or at least pairs). I have gone out alone quite a bit; I enjoy it much more if I can go with others--and it is safer.
PS. I'm mostly referring to things like BBQing outside, going to the grocery store, the mall, etc. I don't want to have to limit myself to LGBT bars, and shopping in other cities.