Does it really make you feel feminine?

[Kate Simmons]

Sometimes I see folks post saying that I dressed in this or that and I felt so-o-o feminine. Is that really true? I don't think it was ever really that way for me, it just made me feel freer to express my deep feelings. To be honest, I wouldn't know what it's really like to "feel feminine" if I tripped over it . I just know what it feels like to be me, with all my facets. So, does dressing make you feel feminine and why do you say that?

[fallen_rayne]

I think everyone is either feminine or masculine on this site respectively. Dressing as what society deems as the right attire for the said gender, just allows us a catalyst to act out our deeply repressed or worn on the sleeve emotions and identities. Wearing the clothes make me feel more like me, not feminine, just me.

[victoriamwilliams1]

I have no clue on what the true feminine feeling is! However when I dress I act as if I was born a female. I tend to act just like any other woman which to the publics view is feminine.

Basically I have accepted myself when dressed as a woman as a woman and I never think of myself as a man in drag!!!

[Rianna Humble]

Basically I have accepted myself when dressed as a woman as a woman and I never think of myself as a man in drag!!!

I agree with this, I too have accepted myself as a woman and never feel like a man even when in drab

[Kate Simmons]

The bottom line is that my higher self is of feminine energy character. What that means is that the perspective is a bit different than masculine energy. Neither of these is related to physical sex although I have taken ownership of my energies and amalgamated them into my overall self, physical basis notwithstanding.

[Kathi Lake]

Since I have never been a female, and never will be one, it is impossible for me to know how "feeling feminine" would feel like. However, I know what feeling masculine feels like (No. Seriously. I do! ), and when I say I feel feminine, what I mean is that I feel less masculine. So, if femininity is the opposite of masculinity, then things I do that make me feel less masculine must allow me to feel feminine, right?



Kathi

[Jenna Lynne]

I feel I have two rather distinct personalities. Most of the time I'm in boy-mode. That's one personality. But I can switch to my other personality without needing the the props (though it's nicer with the props!).

I don't know whether I feel feminine in the same way that a genetic woman feels feminine, but I don't think that's important. My voice changes, my gestures and walk change ... if this isn't "feeling feminine," it's close enough to make me happy!

*** Jenna ***

(Blogging about gender at jennawillow.wordpress.com)

[clearlakequeen]

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[windycissy]

I dunno, when I'm feeling lacy lingerie against my skin and see myself in a cute outfit and dainty little shoes, the scent of my own cologne in the air and the taste of lip gloss on my lips, I sure don't feel macho!

[Deborah Jane]

Hi Denise, an interesting concept but personally I have no idea how feeling feminine feels. I understand how I feel when I wear feminine clothing, but I wouldn't equate that feeling to feeling feminine, feeling good about myself?.... Yes!
But feeling feminine?..... I wouldn't know how the feeling felt, even if I felt it!

[kimdl93]

"Feeling" is such a personal thing, no one can define it for you nor can you entirely appreciate a feeling experienced by someone else, but yeah, I think dressing up makes me feel feminine.

[JainaCarpaccio]

Hi Denise, an interesting concept but personally I have no idea how feeling feminine feels. I understand how I feel when I wear feminine clothing, but I wouldn't equate that feeling to feeling feminine, feeling good about myself?.... Yes!
But feeling feminine?..... I wouldn't know how the feeling felt, even if I felt it!

I think that that pretty much sums it up. I know that when I dress, i feel like what i imagine would be effeminate, but as far as whether it is really is or not I can't say as i only have being masculine as a comparison.

[sissystephanie]

Since I have never been a female, and never will be one, it is impossible for me to know how "feeling feminine" would feel like. However, I know what feeling masculine feels like (No. Seriously. I do! ), and when I say I feel feminine, what I mean is that I feel less masculine. So, if femininity is the opposite of masculinity, then things I do that make me feel less masculine must allow me to feel feminine, right?
Kathi

I would have to agree with Kathi! I am a man, and will always be one. So I also cannot know how "feeling feminine" would feel like. I dress simply because I like the fit, feel, and look of feminine clothes. So I guess maybe I do feel feminine when I am dressed. Whatever the feeling, I sure do like to dress!

[SuzanneBender]

Denise its an interesting philisophical question.

I guess when I am dressed and wearing a cute outfit or a dress with a nice pair of heels I feel more feminine than if I were wearing a pair of Carhart Coveralls, Hooters shirt, and work boots. At least I know I feel less masculine.

Kathi, as usual is correct. I have never been female ,although I play one regularly, so I have no context to measure my feelings of being pretty and cute against. I guess I just have to rely on the Shania Twain song I feel like a woman to provide me with that context, "short skirts, mens shirts, MAN I FEEL LIKE A WOMAN". Opps "MAN I THINK I FEEL LIKE A WOMAN"

[danielle.cd]

when i get totaly dressed and made up i feel like a women in every aspect and even though its me its like im a different person all male manorism seem to fly out the window and the female takes over and yes it makes me feel really good, its almost like a light switch for me when i see my self done up it just clicks in

[erickka]

Since I have never been a female, and never will be one, it is impossible for me to know how "feeling feminine" would feel like. However, I know what feeling masculine feels like (No. Seriously. I do! ), and when I say I feel feminine, what I mean is that I feel less masculine. So, if femininity is the opposite of masculinity, then things I do that make me feel less masculine must allow me to feel feminine, right?



Kathi

Kinda sums it up for me too! Thanks, Kathi!

[BRANDYJ]

It makes me feel what I think in might feel like to feel feminine. Not being a GG, I can only imagine what a GG feels. It might be the way I feel toward my masculine side when I put on my boots, big buckle, jeans and western hat and strap on my six shooter. Sure, I feel more masculine when wearing the clothes of my western heros.

We all have what we think the perfect image of the feminine is, so when I do dress in woman's clothes, I do feel more feminine. But part of me feels womanly, if not feminine, when dressed in either mode.

[Crysten]

Also, notice that women have a LOT - and I mean TONS - of different "accoutrements" to help them "feel" feminine. Hairdos, makeup, jewelry, skirts, dresses...everything. Feminine/masculine are two reflections on the human condition, therefore, if you are a human, you probably fall somewhere on the spectrum - fem on one end, masc on the other.

It all depends on how we feel, and how we express that feeling. To say "I'm not a woman so I don't know anything about feeling fem" is a falsehood. You may not know what it is to have the physicality of a female body, but that doesn't mean you can't feel feminine. Just my opinion, anyway.

[Jane G]

I have to disagree with the majority on this one.

Feelings though Physical, are very much from the heart & head rather than a given appearance. Therefore I see know reason why our individual feeling of femininity should be any different to those of a gg. There are of course big differences in the way most of us, have been taught to express feelings & emotions, but I believe these are, in the main, a product of nurture not nature. I would certainly say that when dressed, in pretty feminine clothes, that I feel more feminine, than when dressed in dull boring clothes. They don’t necessarily have to be female clothes, just feminine.

[pink femme]

Yes it really does.

I live in a land of pre-defined roles and dress code.

I spent the day as Alice on Monday, around the house and out the back garden. Dressing up, putting makeup on, being a housewife for the day. The feeling was so overwhelming......it was definitaly feminine and so right.

Skirts, dresses, ribbons, alice bands, frilly knicks......I was a girl for the day

In fact, Alice even looked girlie and as I am now 42, that took some doing

[Jenny Gurl]

Ask any GG if they feel more feminine going out in jeans and a t shirt or a LBD dressed to the 9's. It is psychological, but it does make most people feel more feminine to look more feminine.

[jemima_bates]

I think it's hard to designate the feeling as "feminine', as Kathi says - having never been a female that's a hard one....

But does my 'construct' of what I think my femininity is feel heightened when dressed - for sure.

Each to their own to some extent - I suppose it depends on our own idea of what we see ourselves as, or term ourselves as whether dressed or not or cd or whatever.

Jemima
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[msniki48]

OK...I am going to try and weigh in here.

We all know how to feel feminine...because we are all both masculine and feminine...it is a sliding scale...from alpha male to female....i would think we agree that we are somewhere in the middle...so we do have fem feelings all the time. as men we try to supress them...cause we were told to.

for me, seeing the woman in the mirror makes me feel less guilty, for showning and expressing this side of me.... so yes I do feel more feminine when the person in the mirror looks like the person that i feel like.

i hate walking around the house expressing myself in a feminine manner[ which is natural for me]...and all of a sudden i pass a mirror....YIKES

Total disconnect!!!

yes i just feel like myself when i feel like i'm in a safe place....when i don't...i put on that masculine persona.

So...Yep i feel more feminine when dressed

[EllieOPKS]

To me it's more of a role plaything. I can pretend, act, and display myself as a girl based on how I have viewed girls in life. When I dress up as a girl I try and roleplay totally as a girl in action and appearance.

I kinda look like it as the same thing as these guys that put on a bandana, a leather vest and chaps and then hop on a Harley. They are pretending to be something they are not, which is again to me role playing.

Just my thoughts.

[Crysten]

AHEM, to quote the famous (infamous?) television commercial we all know, well, "Sometimes I feel like a nut, sometimes I don't".

Here's a point though: how many women do you see (or know) who aren't feminine at all? My guess is lots and lots. Feminity is an expression of your inner self, and I guess women would have as many definitions of it as we do. So - do you feel feminine when you dress? Of course, because that definition is what YOU decide it is.