Ok, I am hoping I can get some advice on this. One of the guys I work with is supposedly gay. I say supposedly, because I hear people say he his, and I don't like to label people unless I have seen or heard it from the horses mouth. I'ave also heard that he dresses as well sometimes. Again, I don't know for sure for the reasons I stated before. Anyhow, he and some of the girls at work went out the other night and they went to a gay bar out of town. One of the girls that went, I worked with the other night, and she made the comment that it was drag night at the gay bar. I was interested, but I didn't want to seem to interested since no one knows about Mileena at work. Anyhow, with her saying that he likes to go to that bar, I am wondering if he is gay. Not that I am interested in that, but I am wondering if he has any CD friends. So with all being said, I am asking you girls for advice on how can I ask if he dresses and if he has any friends that do it as well. The trick is that I don't want to offend him, if all of this isn't true about him. Also, I don't want Mileena exposed until I know for sure. How should I react if he says he isn't into that and doesn't do anyone? What should I do if he goes into shock if I tell him about Mileena? Worse yet, what if he does dress or has friends that do and he doesn't belive me about Mileena? I talk to him all the time, but this is such a difficult topic. Plus, not knowing for sure what he does, makes it seem like this maybe much harder that it really is. I can't talk about it at work because the walls and machines have ears (I hope you girls know what that means). I thought about asking him to meet for breakfast after work (we work at night) so that maybe we could keep the conversation controlled. So, girlfriends, I need some suggestions. Thanks for your help. I love you all!
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