Hey everyone. I've been going through some new and very confusing stuff recently, and I'm trying to get my thoughts in order. Sorry for the length of the post.
I started out like many others here, dressing the first time around 9 or 10 years old, but then I went into denial for years, trying to repress my urges, or make them go away entirely. I would periodically give in and dress a little through puberty, and I would get very excited, then very VERY ashamed.
Earlier on, I felt that I was a normal straight guy, and that the crossdressing was a sexual thing. Also, like many others, the excitement began to fade, and now fem clothes just make me feel comfy and content.
Until recently, I was under the impression that I'm mostly male, with the occasional urge to present female. However, something I was recently reading made me remember some things from when I was about 8 or 10 years old.
I used to wish that when I woke up in the morning I would be a pretty girl, and thought several times that I would have preferred to be born a girl. Even my earliest sexual fantasies involved crossdressing, or I would fantasize that I actually WAS a girl.
Since being reminded of this, it's sort of changed my impression of myself as a CD, and makes me wonder if I really am TS. I notice that I never really WANT to be in guy mode, it's something I feel I SHOULD do.
I'm waiting for a referral to a psychiatrist, and if they can't provide any insight, maybe they can refer me to a gender specialist, but the first referral is likely several months away
The part that confuses me so much is that I've never been fundamentally UNHAPPY with being a guy, despite feeling frustrated with other guys, or feeling like I fit in better with the girls, but I still feel like I would be happy if I had have been born a girl.
I've always thought of myself as a guy on the inside, until recently, now I just don't know anymore. Am I a guy? a Girl? Neither? Both? I'm so confused.
I know there's many other TSs out there that KNEW from a very young age that they were born into the wrong sex. I've never had that powerful feeling, but I've had nagging suspicions throughout my life that maybe I'm not really supposed to be a guy. It's a foreign concept to me to think of myself as a girl, but it actually feels like it makes some sense.
Is it possible that I'm just getting lost in my own head? I just don't know who I am, or what to do. I'm scared.
Sorry again for the length of the post. I needed to vent a little pressure. I feel like I'm stumbling in the dark, not knowing where I'm supposed to be or what I'm supposed to be doing.