I saw my counselor yesterday, and during the course of our session I mentioned the current status of things with regards to my hubby's cding, and my joining this forum. She seemed to feel that there has to be sexual element to all of this (ie. arousal etc.) She asked me twice about it and both times I said I suppose it could. When I thought a bit more about this, my impression was that you can't rule the sexual element out, but that it not necessary. That the desire for cross dressing comes from a deeper place. Am I understanding correctly?!?!!
Please note: My husband and I are not having difficulties with his cross dressing. We are working issues out as they arise, but we have always been there to support the other in any way we can.
I am not seeing a therapist about his cross dressing.I am seeing her regarding issue from my past long before my husband came along. She and I have an excellent working relationship and she is well qualified to help me.
She asked me a general question about the cross dressing she was NOT stating an opinion....since neither of us knew I thought it would be best to ask the people who could best answer this.
As I personally imagined there would be, there are lots of different experiences....like anything in this world there are patterns but that does not negate variation.
I have clarified the original statement several times in this thread, but I think some times people read the first entry and then respond without realizing I have already made clarificationss.
My counselor did nothing wrong.