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    Bra Check

    I don’t go out dressed because I’m concerned that I don’t present well or just can’t pass because of my stature (I’m 6’2) and deep voice. I do however dress at home nearly every evening after work and underdress everyday in panties.

    Occasionally on weekends my undersressing will include a bra or bralette. I do try to choose a top that won’t show bra straps through and often have changed tops before going out because I felt that a bra strap might be showing.

    There are a couple of restaurants near by where I am a regular. I have underdressed with bra and panties in both of these establishments. Long ago in one and more recently in the other one of the waitresses or hostess will walk behind me and rub or pat me on the back or shoulder. Most recently I was wearing a bra when the waitress came by and rubbed my back, above the band and between the straps (so she didn’t feel the bra).

    This has me wondering. Even though I take care to not allow the bra to show through do some still spot it?
    Are they checking to see if they can feel a bra strap? I don’t think it’s the case with the most recent back rub as it was above the band and between the straps.

    What would they do if they did feel a bra strap? Would they say something to me personally, announce “he’s wearing a bra” or …?

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    straps

    call me crazy but I like it when the outline of the bra strap shows through my shirts or blouses
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    Smile Bra straps

    Most people could care less what you are wearing. Some times it is possible to not see the bra strap, but by the way your back looks in you shirt or top it is possible to tell that there is something under the shirt or top. But I have noticed that more and more men are wearing undergarments that help with their posture. These undergarment can feel like a bra with it is actually a brace to help with posture.

    I hope this made sense and helps.

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    They probably wouldn't pay much attention and not even notice that they felt anything.
    I've been wearing sports bras. Quite comfortable and to the best of my knowledge if the shirt is loose enough, don't show strap lines.
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    OF COURSE they can tell you are wearing a bra. Don't think for a minute that no one will notice.

    Do they care? No.

    Will they announce it out-loud? No. Only your drinking buddies are THAT impolite.

    Relax. Everyone knows by now that some men wear women's undergarments. And nobody really cares.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Carrie Davis View Post
    call me crazy but I like it when the outline of the bra strap shows through my shirts or blouses
    I agree with Carrie.

    Once I was at a trade show and I wore a bra under a denim shirt. A salesman put his hand on my shoulder/upper back and seemed startled for a second. The next day I wore a similar shirt without the bra. I made a point of going to the same booth and the same guy put his hand on the same spot. I think he wanted to see if he felt what he thought he did. Surprise!

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    I would love to have that happen to me sometime. I really get a good feeling when someone touches my bra straps.


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    It happened to me at work. A female associate rubbed my back as she walked past. Then she grabbed the bra and snapped it. Payback for my youthful antics. Andrea

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    I was wearing a bra while in the Wal-Mart pharmacy area last year and a woman in teh isle came up to me and began making conversation then rubbed my back. She lingered with her hand on my back for several seconds. I have no doubt she knew I was wearing one. We had a pleasant couple minutes of conversation with lots of smiles and went our separate ways. She had her hand on my bra strap nearly the whole time and never said a word about it.
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    The very first time I ventured out wearing an underwire bra, un-padded and under a thick, checked shirt, an ex-secretary of mine came up behind me in a supermarket and put her arms around me, saying that she had always wanted to do that in the office.

    She must have felt the underwires, but when I turned round nothing was said about the bra and her expression told me nothing.

    The experience did not stop me wearing bras - I love them.

    Now I do not really care if they are noticed. Nobody else really cares either.

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    I would agree, most do not care enough or are polite enough to say nothing. A few months back, winter, in class in guy mode with bra on. Sitting in front row of 300 seat full auditorium/class room. Seated front row, 4 seats with girls on either side and my female lab mates seated behind me. Each lecture is recorded and pod casted as given and professor usually with in a few steps of front row.

    Without thinking I grabbed the front of my bra to adjust and snap, loud! No reactions I know of. The podcast recorded it for all to hear. I know the females around knew the sound!

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    touching!

    Let's get this straight (excuse the pun).....You were dressed in drab, i.e. as a bloke, and you were touched by another bloke. Why? People don't do that normally. Was this a gay pass?

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    I also agree with Carrie. I like my bra being noticed when in guy mode. I know it happened once, and I got a harsh look, but nothing was said. Perhaps I like the attention. I don't really know or care.

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    [SIZE="4"]I also wear bras under my male shirts. I've been hugged, had my back rubbed. and even had a cocktail server in a casino stand behind me at a blackjack table with her hand on my shoulder and run her finger along my bra strap!!! Nothing said in all the encounters I've had over the years.
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    Yes they can be noticed. I wear a bra much of the time. I talk to neighbors, friends and go about anywhere I happen to be going with one on. I’m also convinced that most people could care less and never say anything. People also see what they expect to see and miss things that are common. Most people never see a woman’s bra line because it is an everyday occurrence and the mind filters what we notice. The other day I was waiting in an office and noticed a very pretty girl with a great figure and a thin t-shirt top on. While I could tell she had on a foam cup bra her bra lines did not show. The color was such that it blended with her skin. As she was slim and wearing a proper fitting bra you did not see her bra lines.

    Several years ago I was at a gas station wearing a solid color t-shirt that could not be seen through. As I was paying in the line and bent over I’m sure the bra lines showed. As I walked out, just as the door was closing, a woman in the line announced, “Did you see that, that guy had a bra on.” I was the heaviest I have ever been. When men or women get heavy the bra lines tend to show more as they show indentation where the elastic is. Also your back tends to be more rounded and the straps are raised against the fabric more.

    It is amazing to me that I can be in guy mode wearing a blouse with tucks (clearly showing my B/C projection) shear enough to show bra lace, talking about the kind of bra I am looking for and clearly very knowledgeable about them. Yet, after telling clerks that it is for me in the beginning they seem surprised later that I’m actually wearing one.

    The exception is young girls. I think that it is because bras are a new factor in their lives and their observations are enhanced.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maryesther M. View Post
    Let's get this straight (excuse the pun).....You were dressed in drab, i.e. as a bloke, and you were touched by another bloke. Why? People don't do that normally. Was this a gay pass?
    I think this was directed at me ~ he was a salesman, directing me towards the part of the display he wanted me to see. I didn't find it unusual.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andrea Reynolds View Post
    It happened to me at work. A female associate rubbed my back as she walked past. Then she grabbed the bra and snapped it. Payback for my youthful antics. Andrea
    That would make me red as a beet, then of course I'd be happy all week!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dee Baker View Post
    What would they do if they did feel a bra strap? Would they say something to me personally, announce “he’s wearing a bra” or …?
    Not to worry. They were probably just undercover Homeland Security agents spot checkin for bra bombs. Just another area some states spend the millions of dollars they are given in grants each year to spend as they wish on security projects...

    Hey, your tax dollars at work...makes you feel "safe" doesn't it...?

    Most of those situations are much bigger in your head than in reality. We tend to have "selective" paranoia when we are out dressed. You are probably just fine...

    Most restaurants do not look for ways to publicly humiliate and ruin their patrons lives. It is just not a great marketing tool for some reason...hehehe
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    I don't care how careful I was before coming out the bra strap is noticed. My daughters both said so. Ooooops

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dee Baker View Post
    Even though I take care to not allow the bra to show through do some still spot it? Are they checking to see if they can feel a bra strap?

    What would they do if they did feel a bra strap? Would they say something to me personally, announce “he’s wearing a bra” or …?
    Quote Originally Posted by lingerieLiz View Post
    People also see what they expect to see and miss things that are common. Most people never see a woman’s bra line because it is an everyday occurrence and the mind filters what we notice.
    I agree with Lingerie Liz, and so does my wife, as she too has told me that I should wear my bra in boy mode anyway even if my straps or the little adjusters slightly show. People tend to see what they want to see or what they are expecting to see. People don't expect to see bra straps on a guy so if they do see something that looks like a strap or that they can tell that you are wearing something under your shirt I don't believe that they automatically think "OMG ... he's wearing a bra!"

    If someone touches you to seemingly (?) to check if you are wearing a bra I think it's highly unlikely they will say anything to your face. That's to say, I've had people touch my back or shoulders before now in away I thought wasn't necessary (especially GGs) and none of them said a thing to me. I say relax ... wear your bra with pride
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    If someone is standing still & you have moved beyond them, you passed. A majority of us will be read- forget about it what others MAY think ( or may not ), you have a right to go out & live life.
    If a waitress is continually rubbing your back, maybe you should ask her out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fab Karen View Post
    If someone is standing still & you have moved beyond them, you passed. A majority of us will be read- forget about it what others MAY think ( or may not ), you have a right to go out & live life.
    If a waitress is continually rubbing your back, maybe you should ask her out.
    My experience has been that if a waitress rubs your back, it's because she wants to take you back to her apartment to have an orgy with you and her friends.
    If you resist, god help you, for she will bring the wrath of god down on you for rejecting her advances.

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    Quote Originally Posted by vetobob9 View Post
    My experience has been that if a waitress rubs your back, it's because she wants to take you back to her apartment to have an orgy with you and her friends.
    If you resist, god help you, for she will bring the wrath of god down on you for rejecting her advances.
    Where did you say that restaurant is?
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    Bra Straps

    For me and many others the answer is: Camis. Or a slip. Generally covers any outlines in back and smoothes the bra outline in front.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tanya83 View Post
    Where did you say that restaurant is?
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