Showing Mom

[leean]

My mom has know about my crossdressing for a few years now. Now I would like to show her my girly side, but everytime I get dressed up and want to show her, I chicken out. Please help!

[NV Susan]

[SIZE="4"]Gee leean, could you ask her if that's something she would consider sharing with you? It might make it easier for both of you if you know she won't flip out when she sees you.....just a thought.

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[Mirani]

Has she seen any photos? That would ease the way in.

[mklinden2010]

Uh, you have a "girly" side?

Seriously?

Maybe you're worried your mother will see right through that - to you - and that's why you chicken out.

If you like what you're doing and it pleases you to be open about it, get on with it.

If you like what you do, but don't want to get busted "looking foolish," keep it for own private time.

Moms get this sort of thing, either way.

They want you to be happy.

Do what makes you happy.

Being "chicken" probably isn't it.

[Maryesther M.]

Glad for you that you are so young to need to discuss this problem. You probably pass very well as a girl. (In retrospect I would love to have done it while I was still young).
Depends how often and how publicly you want / need to crossdress. If you are openly shopping, partying and socialising en femme then you need to fill her in on all this. Yes it would be hard, and perhaps a few photos shown first would help.

[Angiemead12]

I sent my mom photos and she now wants me to fly over and be enfemme with her for a week!

That was a bit intimidating so I dint take the offer too.

[eluuzion]

One option would be to sit down and have a conversation about your interests, before actually surprising her by just walking out dressed up.

Start with a dixie cup, not a firehose...

just a thought...


I have imagined the scenario of sitting down with my mom and having that conversation. My mind automatically creates this scene where I tell her, then she gets real quiet, looks right at me, and says "SURPRISE!"...just as she yanks off her wig and begins explaining how...all of these years, she was really my Father, not my Mother!!!...hehehe

I know, I really am a mental case, aren't I ?? My mind just looks at the world that way...Hey, relax...mental illness is not contagious...

(sorry, not trying to make fun of your genuine dilemma, I hope it does work out well for you...)


Good Luck

[AKAMichelle]

I like the idea of pictures. It shows them what to expect. If they can't handle it then it stops there, and if they can then you have to find the courage to go further. Showing a mom is a tad easier than showing a GF because she loves you no matter what.

[jessica renee]

When you're ready to tell your mom, you'll be able to. In my opinion though if you want her to know tell her gradually but make sure she finds out from you and not from someone or something else.

[AlexisWest]

My mom has been interested in TV/CD/TS issues for many years.

I was underdessed while at my moms house one day and the subject came up during our conversation,. When I asked if she was still intrigued by female impersonators (she has several books on the subject) she replied yes. It was then that I slipped off my boots to reveal my pantyhosed legs and feet. She wasn't taken by surprise at all. She looked and me, gave me a hug and calmly said, 'now I know'. After a long 'Mother/Daughter conversation, she asked if I would dress for her. I dressed for her and she loved it. She still buys me things that I might like.

She also told me that my Dad was a closeted CD and that His cousin's husband had SRS in the lated 70's. Thats probably why we never heard from them again, Mom said they live as sisters!

[Leyna]

I'd really talk with her first and make sure it's something she would be interested in. Accepting yourself is one thing. Demanding that others accept you (even your family) is quite another. If she seems warm to the idea, pictures sounds like a good idea first. But please please PLEASE do not just "surprise" her.

[Von]

Obviously you know your mother and your situation best. You just said she's known for years, not how she felt about it... I think my mother would tend to be supportive, and if she thought it's what *I* wanted or needed, she'd try to be comfortable with seeing me dressed. But in reality, I think it would just cause her grief and worry for the rest of her life. So, I guess my point is that if you are eventually going to go full-time, or if you live with her, and it's enevitable that she will see it eventually, so be it. Or if you are sure she is really cool with it. Otherwise, consider what the benefit is of showing her, and the possible downside.