Results 1 to 18 of 18

Thread: Does anyone else find it mentialy exhausting to present as male?

  1. #1
    Member Karinsamatha's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Location
    CT
    Posts
    478

    Does anyone else find it mentialy exhausting to present as male?

    I went on a family type camping vacation last week, and for the first time in the ten years that I have been doing it I was a mental wreck. I am not out to anyone who was there.
    I did underdress but it is not enough anymore. The relief I felt when I got home and shaved, and epalated my chest and legs was substantial. And to sleep with my forms and nighty - Heaven.
    I am thinking that I am progressing in my journey .
    So the question is does any one else feel like that?

    A prisoner in a kings disguise - Styx

  2. #2
    Diamond Member Persephone's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Location
    On the road in an RV, homebase Texas
    Posts
    6,751
    Definitely!

    Suzy Toronto (click here) has a wonderful graphic in her Wonderful Wacky Women collection:

    "Pretending to be a normal person day-after-day is exhausting!"
    "If you are living the life you want to live you've successfully transitioned to being the person you want to be." - Eryn.

    "If you truly care about me you should damn well want for me what I want for myself" - Michael Westen (Burn Notice)

    -.-. --.-/-.-. --.-/-.-. -../ Persephone™ and Persephone™ are trademarks of Persephone herself, accept no substitutes. The terms "en femme" and "en drab" originated with Marcia Sampson/Staylace (OBM).

  3. #3
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Posts
    1,013
    It's the other way around for me..It's easy being a guy . Wake up ,shower brush the teeth throw jeans t shirt ball cap on and I am off to work..I find it very un comfortable sleeping with any thing femme on.Maybe it's the way I sleep..I take the whole bed up habit I guess and anything that is tight or different will keep me tossing and turning..
    I do not!! Claim to be an expert on any topic, when I post a new thread or reply on any thread my imput is strickly that of a crossdresser. Not to offend Gay people , Transexuals or any other life style, I am only commenting on one of my own.

  4. #4
    Aspiring Member jenifer m.'s Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Location
    boynton beach florida
    Posts
    569
    i definently hate having to wear anything mens now days.really the only time i do a mens tee shirt,and shorts is when i go to the gym.other than that its always girls clothes for me.it drives my wife nuts too.hell i even wera makeup every day now too.i guess im just a really girly man.
    just a florida girly girl...................................what in the world can make this brown eyed girl turn blue(roxette)

  5. #5
    Silver Member AKAMichelle's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Colorado
    Posts
    2,857
    Especially when you present as female too.
    Michelle

  6. #6
    Gen thechic's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    Location
    New Zealand
    Posts
    791

    extremely exhausting

    I find in extremely exhausting being a Guy day after day hiding my natural self,It kills me.just cant wait for the weekends when the real me gets out.

  7. #7
    New Member Yuri(Lily)'s Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    Location
    Southwest Michigan
    Posts
    16
    for sure, i can hardly sleep without panties or a bra on
    I may be a girl at heart, but I can still put anyone in their place

  8. #8
    GerriJerry Gerrijerry's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2007
    Location
    Florida
    Posts
    1,150
    I have to say yes. I fing it very exhausting. As I said in another post. lately I don't pass very well as a male anymore. I have to really work at it to have the male look.

  9. #9
    Silver Member Loni's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Location
    in the hills of central california
    Posts
    2,742

    Smile

    not sure about tiring... but a pain for sure.
    just trying to not say do somethings. if done it could lead to a oop's point in time.
    even just trying to grow my nails....and not make a cominet to thoses I work with..when I break one.

    it would be great to be my self all the time. and not put up this front during the day at work.

  10. #10
    Adventuress Kate Simmons's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Location
    The Poconos PA
    Posts
    18,971
    Not really. I'm always the same in either mode anyway.
    Second star to the right and straight on till morning

  11. #11
    What is normal anyway? Rianna Humble's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Location
    At home in my own skin
    Posts
    8,586
    Quote Originally Posted by Karinsamatha View Post
    Does anyone else find it mentaly exhausting to present as male?
    Not any more! The last 6 to 8 weeks of having to pretend I was male were more than exhausting they were absolute hell. Luckily for me the worst I am likely to have in the near future is a 4 day weekend because my niece who is getting married doesn't know I'm not a man.
    Check out this link if you are wondering about joining Safe Haven.

    This above all: To thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any

    Galileo said "You cannot teach a man anything" and they accuse ME of being sexist

    Never ascribe to malice that which can be easily explained by sheer stupidity

  12. #12
    Silver Member Kathryn Martin's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    2,433
    Here is my conundrum I am who I am no matter how I am dressed. What I find exhausting are the stereotypes our society has developed about men and women and the so called gender cues that are not biologically cued up.

    I just really want to dress the way I want and nobody care about it.

  13. #13
    Aspiring Member
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Location
    albuquerque
    Posts
    674
    I literally live at work as a man 2 days and at home as myself the other 5- I havent quite gotten to the point of tearing my male clothes off when I get home, but Im probably close.

  14. #14
    Senior Member Stephanie Miller's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2006
    Location
    Arizona
    Posts
    1,147
    Mentally and physically exhausting. Only because my "real" life revolves around the male me. My male self goes to work - really never mentally leaving the stress of it at the office, male self helps around the house - inside and out, does the social thing, fixes cars, builds things, plans family future, inhales to inflate chest while being protector, etc..
    The girl me gets to take a ride on easy street. No, I don't have to put up with the bad part of being a woman (bad hair/makeup days don't count). Low pay, physical problems, etc.. (Heck, any Gg would for-go that too if she could)
    In girl mode I leave the mental exhaustion at home. Why pack it with me if I don't have to? Being a CD in public comes with enough stress. I enjoy getting dressed, putting on makeup and running the town for Carmel Maciados. I tie my hair back, sans make-up and jump into my sport bra and shorts and putter around the garden if I want.
    O.K., talked myself into it. It's a girls night. Wife is over at daughters house babysitting grandkids and I'll be home alone with nothing to do, so its off to my favorite restaurant for a cocktail tonight. Thanks for the thread. Now I have something to look forward to tonight and help me through my work day.

  15. #15
    Member Terri Andrews's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2009
    Location
    Hagerstown, Maryland
    Posts
    350
    Yes ,and I think that the older I get the worst it gets .

  16. #16
    Banned Read only nikkijo's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    Location
    insestacada OR
    Posts
    636
    spent a weekend riding.. with redneck friends... and lets just say... i couldnt stay as a guy... i had to go back to my girls clothes...

  17. #17
    Life is for having fun. suzy1's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Location
    Hampshire, U.K.
    Posts
    5,124
    I have been happy in ether mode. But I must admit as time goes on I am beginning to find it unpleasant to be in guy mode for too long.
    But at the same time being Suzy gives me more and more pleasure.
    This leads to an interesting question. Does our C.D.ing just go on getting stronger for some of us?


    SUZY

  18. #18
    Member Karinsamatha's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Location
    CT
    Posts
    478
    For me it has been getting stronger all the time. I am at a point where I can't wait to get home from work and get into my comfy clothes. To be truthfully I haven't been buying much in the way of male clothes either.
    I am feeling more and more that the male facade is just that, and extremely exhausting to maintain

    A prisoner in a kings disguise - Styx

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  


Check out these other hot web properties:
Catholic Personals | Jewish Personals | Millionaire Personals | Unsigned Artists | Crossdressing Relationship
BBW Personals | Latino Personals | Black Personals | Crossdresser Chat | Crossdressing QA
Biker Personals | CD Relationship | Crossdressing Dating | FTM Relationship | Dating | TG Relationship


The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs.
We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.

Browse Crossdressers By State