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    Why does man/woman or woman/woman holdimg hands walking down the street seem acceptable while two men doing same are targets of abuse.Loads of guys love to watch two women making out but two men would be disgusting.Could be fear of the unknown or fear of what is not socially acceptable.Any ideas.

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    Quote Originally Posted by weyburn View Post
    Why does man/woman or woman/woman holdimg hands walking down the street seem acceptable while two men doing same are targets of abuse.Loads of guys love to watch two women making out but two men would be disgusting.Could be fear of the unknown or fear of what is not socially acceptable.Any ideas.
    I think that in some cases when people do that, they're just trying to dirvert attention from the fact thet they enjoy or are interested in that very behavior.

    For example If they constantly express that they find Gays disgusting, perhaps people won't suspect they are secretly Gay !!

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    because some men are just plain sloppy!

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    I am beginning to believe that society in general thinks that "gayness" is contageous, like chickenpox. If you get too close you will get it. So they will warn everyone about a gay couple by exclaiming how wierd and creepy it is.

    It is down right embarassing to see this happen. When will society wise up and smell the roses that the LBGT community brings into our lives.

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    Just think if we where holding a mans hand we do not get a second look either.

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    Beats me, people are just people from my perspective. Those who don't accept others for who they are evidently see some personal aspect of themselves they are afraid to confront I guess.
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    I think it's a religious thing. Keep in mind that north america has the most christians of any nation on the planet. Any perceived threat to their faith, like two men making out, is seen as another attack on the sanctity of the bible. They basically associate it with demons and lies and deceit and satanism and etc.

    It's an attack on their faith, number one.

    It's amusing and won't ever change until the bible removes its offensive language.

    I found an example here:
    http://bible.org/article/homosexuali...an-perspective

    Scroll down to "Q. What explicitly does the Bible teach about homosexuality?" .. A very indepth explanation for the hostility.

    I was once a christian, so you can trust me. I thought homosexuality was another example of satan's attempt to deceive us and lead us away from the truth. Fortunately, I grew out of that. I later found out my brother is gay.

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    because most men are weak....

    Well, perhaps gayness is contagious.

    Hear me out on this.

    I for the most part have had lousy luck with women, for one simple reason...they have all been nuts. LOL. I am friends with these women, but relationship wise? No way. Not with my income.

    The general concensous is, all women are nuts (this is certainly not my view by the way)

    It does not help that for the most part women are spoon fed by society that they should be weak, needy, subservient, and so on. There are thankfully many that throw these notions out, however, a proportion of those women end up wanting women.

    In the past year I have encountered 3 women that were raped by a male family member.

    Now, considering for the most part it is the male of the species that is in fact weak when it comes to matters of the heart, the sight of two men happy with one another, might drive such a person to "test the waters" of being gay.

    I'll admit, I tried it...for approximately 30 minutes. No sex, just nuzzling and stuff...I did not like it.

    There are a lot of guy out there that are true pieces of stuff on two legs, and want to control everyone. They think anal sex with a woman is just fine, but the same with a man is sick and against the Bible. Got news for them. Sodomy is ANY penetration of the...you get my drift, either male or female, human or animal.

    But then again these are the same silly people that say God invented Marriage.

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    I can't really say that objectifying two women together is any better.

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    Man / Woman = the guy could visualize themselves holding the woman's hand
    Woman / Woman = the guy enjoys being there between them in all of the action.
    Man / Man = No way.

    I don't why is the way it is, but a woman would have the exact opposite response. They might like being in the mix with the 2 guys.
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    A lot of the reason goes back to the bible as at least one poster mentioned and our puritan roots. Also people in general are afraid of what they do not understand and most people in the usa and other countries just simply do not understand guys being gay or for that matter men wanting to dress as women. Add to that regional influences such as a "southern redneck" and its a messed up situation. Keep in mind that there are still some churches that believe in snake handling and that god will take care of those that get bit.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pythos View Post
    Sodomy is ANY penetration of the...
    of the poop chute?
    I just wanted to make sure I understood.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nicole Erin View Post
    of the poop chute?
    I just wanted to make sure I understood.
    actually if you want to get technical, sodomy is anythign but face to face penile-vaginal intercourse.

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    And now for the loop I threw out to you all, when I mentions definitions

    That definition of Sodomy is according to whom?

    Sodomy was not even a word in Biblical times. Not many people are aware of that. It is a word from (trumpets please), medieval times. That's right, the dark ages, when theology ruled the land with an iron fist. When people were murdered for having a differing view. A time the church was 180 degrees opposite of what Christ was all about.

    We try to apply terms and ideas in the Bible in a manner that is completely and utterly out of context. That is one of the major areas where contention, in many areas of our society.

    Look at us for example. That wonderfully out of place statement in the Bible that supposedly speaks out against us crossdressers. Deut 22.5. There have been many Jewish Rabis, theologians, and other learned individuals that have stated that 22.5 is not what it seems. The words in the actual Hebrew DO NOT denote clothing. They refer to garb used for religious ceremonies.

    I truly wish this sort of thing would be paid attention to. It is all about context.

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    Quote Originally Posted by weyburn View Post
    Why does man/woman or woman/woman holdimg hands walking down the street seem acceptable while two men doing same are targets of abuse.Loads of guys love to watch two women making out but two men would be disgusting.Could be fear of the unknown or fear of what is not socially acceptable.Any ideas.
    It depends where you live. I'm used to seeing men holding hands with women, women holding hands with women and men holding hands with men. In London no one really bats an eyelash... and in fact the same could be said of most UK cities. In India and Africa you often see men holding hands with each other and not because they're in a sexual relationship with one another either.

    A lot of men are very homophobic... or scared of their own inner feelings... the lady doth protest etc. Also gay pornography is extremely prolific and not just watched by gay men.

    What's your view?

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    Funny that you mention this, because from straight women I know, I don't know any that get turned on by two men making out, while men get turned on by two women. I wonder if this is based on society, or is there another dynamic involved? Who knows...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pythos View Post
    And now for the loop I threw out to you all, when I mentions definitions

    That definition of Sodomy is according to whom?

    Sodomy was not even a word in Biblical times. Not many people are aware of that. It is a word from (trumpets please), medieval times. That's right, the dark ages, when theology ruled the land with an iron fist. When people were murdered for having a differing view. A time the church was 180 degrees opposite of what Christ was all about.

    We try to apply terms and ideas in the Bible in a manner that is completely and utterly out of context. That is one of the major areas where contention, in many areas of our society.

    Look at us for example. That wonderfully out of place statement in the Bible that supposedly speaks out against us crossdressers. Deut 22.5. There have been many Jewish Rabis, theologians, and other learned individuals that have stated that 22.5 is not what it seems. The words in the actual Hebrew DO NOT denote clothing. They refer to garb used for religious ceremonies.

    I truly wish this sort of thing would be paid attention to. It is all about context.
    Sodomy doesn't just refer to anal, it refers to any penetration outside of vagina. That means no oral, buddy.

    And, as for all context...the Bible is so many times removed from its native language. You can debate almost anything in it. That's where people lose their footing on their religion if they take the book for its literal interpretation.

    ...I really hope that no one takes the Bible literally...though, I have met people who have claimed to do so. (I don't believe them).

    As for man on man? I think any two people in love is quite beautiful.

    One of my good male friends who is rather openly gay is having a Strippers n' Beer party on the 20th. Gay male strippers. Gay female strippers. And, of course, straight strippers.

    In the middle of Alabama.

    Many people who are going are straight. Curiosity maybe? If it can happen in the Deep South, I have hope for humanity.

    ...Even though it's a stripper party. Ah, f*ck...we're all lost.

    I'll have to see how all of that goes and report back.
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    depends on where you are. There's that famous picture of Dubya holding hands with a Saudi Prince...its entirely acceptable there. And if you look at art from lots of other cultures m/m sex is commonly portrayed. Here in the US we're still living with Puritanical or Victorian sexual hang ups. My god, recently Texas legislature sought to outlaw "sodomy" again, without defining which sodomy they meant, or who was to enforce it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shananigans View Post
    And, as for all context...the Bible is so many times removed from its native language. You can debate almost anything in it. That's where people lose their footing on their religion if they take the book for its literal interpretation.
    You are most correct! The original is Hebrew, translated to Greek and then Latin. It has been copied and recopied and there are known (many known) scribal errors and obvious differences between the two thousand year old texts (Hebrew Bible, Septuagint, Vulgate, Targum).

    Now, in our infinite wisdom, we translate these into English and as that Bible.org site, Old English with the ye and thou, etc.

    No wonder they get it wrong!!!!!

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    beacause i dress gender queer a majority of the time most people assume im a flaming gay.your right girls have no problem with me and are very open,but guys act like theyre scared to come around me.....good i only need women in my life any ways.i love women so much i act and dress just like them.as far as people thinking im gay who cares i dont.in fact it seems to me that being gay is more popular than ever now days.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jenifer m. View Post
    beacause i dress gender queer a majority of the time most people assume im a flaming gay.your right girls have no problem with me and are very open,but guys act like theyre scared to come around me.....good i only need women in my life any ways.i love women so much i act and dress just like them.as far as people thinking im gay who cares i dont.in fact it seems to me that being gay is more popular than ever now days.
    Haha gay is increasingly popular, I guess. I think they get more play on women than most hetero men too. My dear friend (the one throwing the stripper party and who is very clearly homosexual), is the only man that Ryan will let get away with kissing me and coming up and wrapping his arms around me.

    Now, if a lesbian did that to him...I'd deck her.

    But, I always watch his reactions when Buddy comes and kisses me on the forehead and he looks at the situation like my mom just kissed me on the forehead.

    Of course, this is a college crowd. And, no one would bat an eyelash at two men holding hands or kissing.

    As it should be.
    "Today a young man [...] realized that all matter is merely energy condensed to a slow vibration...that we are all one consciousness experiencing itself subjectively...there is no such thing as death, life is only a dream, and we are the imagination of ourselves. Here's Tom with the Weather.”-Bill Hicks
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    It is ignorance. As time goes on people will understand nothing is wrong with it. I see it sometimes and I admit at first it seemed very strange, but as time goes on and I know more about gay people, they are just people too and realize what they do doesn't have to impact what I do if I am straight. And actually, it is nice to see anyone holding hands. I don't like to see public affection like heavy kissing between anyone though. And although not illegal for a woman or man to walk around without a shirt on in Ontario, I prefer if everyone wore a top while not at the beach.
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    9 times out of 10 an individual is more excepting.
    but when you get a group of people together thay tend to egg
    each other on and cause a problem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shananigans View Post
    And, as for all context...the Bible is so many times removed from its native language. You can debate almost anything in it. That's where people lose their footing on their religion if they take the book for its literal interpretation.

    ...I really hope that no one takes the Bible literally...though, I have met people who have claimed to do so. (I don't believe them).
    The bible has been re-written many times through history to suit the whims of kings & church-leaders.
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