In one of the other sections there was talk about what if your little girl wanted to dress like a boy or be a boy. Ze talked about the use of pronouns, which I made a reply about "she will always be daddy's little girl". Which Ze replied:
"This makes me quite sad, knowing my own struggles with my father. It is hard; I empathize with that. But it's also hard for others to accept you. And either they accepted you or abandoned you. Those are unfortunately the two choices in the end, difficult or not. We can all identify with that."
So I wanted to ask you guys this. As a father myself have I offend you by my statement? I did mention that I would change the pronoun use and call them he/him/his/etc...but in my mind and heart "she will always be daddy's little girl". Sorry but hopefully this will explain it.
As a person trying to figure out my own MTF'ness, I would hope that my children will still have me in their life. If I follow through with my feelings and go all the way, will that make me their mother? Of course they will hopefully call me she/her/etc...but I would never want them to think of me as anything but their father/dad. Their mother is their mother, she earned that right, I didn't.
Now to be fair, if either of my two boys came to me as MTF's, I would still see them as my little boys. That is something that I will always see when I see them. Even when they are all grown up, I still have images in my head of them cuddling with me watching TV or a movie.
As a father that loves his kids more than anything, it is hard to let go of that little child. I know I have to but I don't want to at the sametime. I have talked with other fathers, that seem like tough strong men, still look at the kids (teenagers & up...) as that little kid that came running to them to protect them from monsters.