Dating

[Genivieve]

I'm sure this has been asked before so forgive me I'm new.
Do any of you single people find it easy to date guys or girls
Dressed as a female? Does being in drag make you more
Open to playing a female and flirting with men?

Thanks in advance.

[CharleneT]

Just my personal experience, but when I was cross dressing, I had no little trouble getting dates. In fact, met one woman while I was dressed and out with a crew of locals from a TriEss event. We started dating that week. We were together for fairly long after that. Now ... I am pre-op and live full time now, it is much harder to get a date.

Being dressed up ( I've not been "in drag" before ) did not really change how I acted.

[Genivieve]

Why do you think its harder now that you are pre op?
I personally think I'm at a point where I want to date a crossdresser
or crossdress myself and date. The only problem currently is where I live
isn't too free for me to explore. Also, I'm a long way from looking presentable.

[CharleneT]

Why do you think its harder now that you are pre op?
I personally think I'm at a point where I want to date a crossdresser
or crossdress myself and date. The only problem currently is where I live
isn't too free for me to explore. Also, I'm a long way from looking presentable.

Well, it varies and sometimes you just do not know. But my guesses are around the idea that anyone who potentially wants to date me knows I'm in transition** and they are not comfortable with all the changes. A big one being that I will go from male sexual organs to female. Depending on the person, this may not be something they are interested in. They may think cross dressing is ok, but may not be comfortable with a TS person. I think the reasons for women vs men are very different. The men who have wanted to date me fall into a couple of groups, but the largest are those who have a fetish for "she males". I am not one, nor do I wish to play that role. Hence I ignore them.

** I am quite open and honest about who I am and where I am going with anyone who gets interested.

[linda allen]

I would think that "dating" like going to a show or dinner would be one thing, but when it comes time to be intimate, it might be difficult to determine who does what to whom until you get to know each other better.

[Desiree2bababe]

Of course, I'd never go after a man if I wasn't dressed. I've longed for that special woman though that would find me sexually appealing.

[My Lady Marsea]

I seem to be like in never never land or wutever. Might be my age? I'm in full 24/7 transition and on HRT with intentions of SRS someday, if my financial ship ever finds the pier lol.
I 've had like more than a a few guys hit on me, but it's I who like shows no interest. They're not what I guess I want or you just know they have the "I want to nail a T-Girl for my trophy" attitude. I did have one that really interested me and I needed to take the inititive or wutever though to get it going. We only lasted about three days ( I like cried alone that night...never done that yet) but I was like on cloud 9 before that. That evening while laying dressed in bed after a great day out, or at least I enjoyed it,and sorta messing around he came up with he "still needed time to wrap his head around all this". It was his first time but he just wasn't sure I guess. I was like OK with it all even though I'd never done that before myself, but it felt natural and OK to me. Since he was here for the winter only and going back to Canada later that week, he said that "long distance relations are too hard and never work out". Heard little to nothing since then although he knows where to find me should he have like gotten his head wrapped yet lol. I think deep inside I know we can stick a fork in it, it's like done.
I've done all the "free" see your matches promotion thingies on the TV online dating ads, but in reality "seeing"" is not "contacting" unless you wanna pay first to continue. Lots of so time consuming profile stuff to attract "Mr perfect". I now highlighted,copied and pasted to a word formant file as it's like so totally easier to wok from that and insert into these profile thingies. I'm like so not that desperate and really pretty leery of the results as a TG/TS looking for a male or female. No luck on the free TV/TG/TS date site, had one contact from New Jersey, but it fell flat with no warning or reasons like so totally sudden even after many emails and a couple of phone calls, he called me BTW.
I seem to be able to meet girls OK on my day to day life as the girl I am, but most are married or for some reason are like really into you or wutever at first, but never seem to progress to the next level after the I guess 'Novelty" wears off?
All in all I'm like so totally tired of being an Army Of One, but am open to anything that presents itself to me.

[Fab Karen]

? If you have interest in guys you just do- clothes do not "make you" do anything.

[Genivieve]

I guess I was just wondering about the gender identity aspect of it. I could imagine a change in attitude when presenting oneself to the world as a woman.

[Helen Raines]

The more time I spend making myself feminine, the more feminine I feel.When I think I look very passable I do wonder what it would be like to be the "woman" on a date.All of it, being picked up, doors opened, seats offered.I think it can be another level of the experience.I might even try it myself someday.

[Lucy_Bella]

Not into men....But it is easier to get one that's for sure... Placed an ad on a TG dateing site, made sure I put that I was only interested in women ( gg's ) several times, got one female hit and way to many men..I deleted my account..

[Alice Torn]

I have had hundreds of men interested in Louise, on the internet, but, very few gg's interested in Louise, or my guy self. It always seems like too many men after too few gg's, so being dresses up pretty will get a lot of male attention! I have not yet met up, with a guy yet, but came very close.