Regrets namely you name.

[SuzanneBender]

There are lots of post across the forums here concerning names. I have found everything from why did you pick yours to how do you change it, but I have not found one concerning a tinge of regret or doubt that I have about my femme name.

I was born a natal boy. My parents were not kind enough to give me one of those great androgynous names that work well for ladies or men in our situation. So as I express my femininity I obviously need a name that fits my external appearance. Well for you hard core gender transgressors I guess I don't really, but I feel more comfy with one that fits. For my own reasons I chose Suzanne. Hint-thank you James Taylor.

I like my name. I really do. However, there is a bit of regret. Names are supposed to be chosen for us. They are selected by those that love us and in most cases celebrate someone that has come before us or expresses a hope that our loved ones have for our futures.

I guess having a loved one pick your name is one of those experiences that people like us miss out on. Do you see it as a shortfall or am I making to much ado about nothing? Did you select your name or did someone else? Just curious.

[minalost]

Hmmm. In my opinion too many people today get stuck with weird names by well meaning Moms and Dads. "Oh. let's make sure our little boy/girl is unique and stands out in a crowd by naming him/her (fill in the blank with the wierdest name you can think of...) Or they do it my making in a normal SOUNDING name and then just miss-spelling it. "Hi my name is Fred, no that's P-h-r-e-d!" Shudder! I picked my own Fem name and am very happy that I did.
Just my .02!

[GaleWarning]

I am reminded of a Tom Lehrer song which mentions a gent named Phenry.
The P, you see, is silent.

I am happy with my birth name. It describes me to a T.

My on-line name is only there for the sake of anonymity.
And yes, it is deliberately androgynous.

[AKAMichelle]

I do regret the name I chose but I will have to live with it for now. I chose the name from the name my wife and I picked out for a daughter that we never had.

Heather Michelle

[NV Susan]

[SIZE="4"]I did use the name Kimberly but a few years ago a GG friend told me I was to old for that name, it would not have been used when I was born. I changed it to Susan, and I've been Susan ever since!!!
[/SIZE]

[Jorja]

I went with Jorja because my father said that would have been my name had I been born a girl. It is much better than the one they gave me, Gregory yuck!!!!!

[Fab Karen]

His parents named him Archibald Leach. He changed his name & is known to history as a sauve popular guy: Cary Grant.

[Rachel Mari]

I picked my name because I have always really liked the name Rachel.

I pretty well suck at naming anything (cats, dogs, kids) and our cats were named by my wife or kids. When my son was born, it took 5 days to us to come up with a name for him and it fit him. I didn't think of his name but I really like it. On the other hand, as soon as my daughter was born I knew she was a Audrey and it fits her to a tee. The one rare occasion that I succeeded in a name.

I sometime wish that my wife had been in on my fem name and maybe she will be later. More on that later, after couseling. It would mean more to me to have it picked by someone I love very much as they would see in me that name.

So, I may change my name someday, or not. We'll see.

[sometimes_miss]

Real name, sure; because I had to grow up with it, and remember lots of kids making fun of me, and often my name was in that process. But I think it was mostly because my whole childhood sucked. My real name isn't that bad. Regret my fake female name? Why? It's fake. I can change it anytime I want. In fact, you can change your real name as well if you really want to.

[eluuzion]

I think the logic behind my online name is pretty straight-forward. It fits me and my perception of life in general. I do not feel the need to have a first & last name and I will certainly not have a “Miss” in front of it anytime soon, unless I decide to become a Vegas showgirl, lol.

As for my real first name…Back in my more adventurous years, when I associated with people you probably think only exist in the movies, my “friends” started calling me by my initials. I just adopted that “name” and today, most of my friends probably could not tell you what my actual name is. I do not even relate to my real first name anymore.

I always vary the spelling of my first name on applications, etc. Every place I submit my name is different. That way when I start receiving “junk” mail, I know exactly who sold my name, by the spelling of my name. Then I write that company and tell them why I am cancelling all of my business with them.

When I was in sales, I knew a guy named Richard Head. For real! He was a riot as a person and one of the best salesmen I ever met. He got a ton of mileage out of his name, and always got appointments with buyers that nobody else could break into.

I have no regrets about anything I have done in the past...

[Rianna Humble]

I guess having a loved one pick your name is one of those experiences that people like us miss out on. Do you see it as a shortfall or am I making to much ado about nothing? Did you select your name or did someone else? Just curious.

I wil answer these points in reverse order. I chose my first and last name but canvassed opinion from my very best friends for my midle name. I wanted for practical reasons to keep the same initials as my old name, but didn't want a cliche like Renee. As I was thinking it through, the name Rianna came to mind and seemed to fit me like a glove. I wanted my new last name to resemble my old one but still be distinct and Humble goes well with Rianna (even though I often explain to people that it is not a description).

When I gave an interview to the paper, I said (and still believe) that I am lucky to have had the chance to choose my own name, so I don't think I've missed out on an experience, rather I have had an opportunity not given to most people.

Besides, some parents can be very cruel when they name their offspring. A few examples:

1 When I was in credit collections, I had to call a customer (didn't know at the time whether they were male or female) for whom I did not have a complete first name only an initial, so I had to ask if I could speak to A Prat.

2 A similar example was the customer whose last name was Sole and for whome I only had the obvious initial.

3 My erstwhile sister went to school with unalike twins Portland Edwina Augusta Green and her twin brother Philip Edward August. Imagine having to go through school with a name like Portland, or have the alternative of just being known by your initals PEA Green.

4 The people who sold me my house, father and son named Richard but affectionately called "Big Dick" and "Little Dick"

Personally, I would hate to have to live my whole life with one of those names.

[SuzanneBender]

Suzanne and Michelle, you can always change. If you feel something fits better, I would change it now. Easier to do it early. Long before it is etched in granite

Being of the feline purrrsuasion we should have three names also

Don't get me wrong. I love my name. It fits like a glove. I just wished it could have been given by my parents. However, given the stuffy boy names they hung me with (all family names that are a couple of generations past) I probably am much better off. In all likelihood I would have been a Grace, Emma or other old lady name.

Ok, Narek? Rarek? Arren? Krane? My head hurts!

Raren. What a cool name for a hockey player.

I wanted for practical reasons to keep the same initials as my old name.
Besides, some parents can be very cruel when they name their offspring.

I like that idea and have been thinking about the something similar if I ever arrive at the point in this journey where I am making an official name change. I would obviously like to keep my last name and was thinking about hyphenating it with my male first name that just happens to also be a last name. Sounds silly but I thought it would help when it comes to records and such.

Some parents can be cruel with names. I have no idea what goes through their minds. My wife and I spent hours working on names that honor our children.

[anna kate]

I chose a name that was taken from my given name. After my niece "discovered" me, she asked me if I had a fem name, I replied with yes and told her... She said that nobody gets to name themselves and she would think on it, and let me know. She chose my new name from two of my female ancestors. So, its been Anna Kate ever since. I actually like it.

[SuzanneBender]

Anne Kate that is too cool! You have a given name by someone who loves you and its a family name to boot.

[sandra-leigh]

After I changed (unofficial) names last year for family reasons, I found that the new one just doesn't quite "stick" for me. I've been looking around for a good permanent name... and I've been encountering all kinds of restrictions on names that I cannot take. Cannot start with the same initial as my grandmother, mother, sister; can't take this name or that name because my mother has a friend-she-doesn't-really-like of the same name... and so on. Sigh.

[Angie G]

There are some girl names that really Suck out there. You got to pick yours so it's one you really like. And this is bad how.I picked Angie it holds a special meaning for me and I love it.
Angie

[PretzelGirl]

I would have been Stephanie if born a girl according to my parents. It just didn't seem to fit me. I didn't want anything that sounded girly, cutesy, or elegant. None of those seemed to fit me. I feel more middle of the road, outgoing, and friendly (not that Stephanie isn't these, but I didn't feel it). Sue seemed to fit to me. I haven't needed a last name yet, so I haven't put too much thought into that. One thought was if I use my real last name, then I can have a debit card with two initials and the last name and I can use it anytime. That helps on mail also. The other thought was to honor a last name from my ancestry. Still haven't decided since I am not pressed on it. Maybe a naming contest?

[Gina X]

I chose Gina based on a television character that I liked, it is one decision that I have never regrettd I've really liked the name ever since..............

Lots of love Gina x

[Annaliese2010]

...a name that fits my external appearance... For my own reasons I chose Suzanne. Hint-thank you James Taylor. I like my name. I really do. However, there is a bit of regret. Names are supposed to be chosen for us... I guess having a loved one pick your name is one of those experiences that people like us miss out on...am I making to much ado about nothing

Um...yeah. Suzanne's a pretty name. And ooh lala it's French!

[SIZE=2]Suzanne takes you down
To a place by the river
You can hear the boats go by
Spend the night forever

You know she's half crazy
but that's why you wanna be there
She feeds you tea and oranges
That came all the way from China

And just when you want to tell her
That you have no love to give her
She gets you on her wavelength
And she lets the river answer
That you've always been her lover

You wanna travel with her
Wanna travel blind
But you think maybe you'll trust her
[/SIZE] [SIZE=2]She's touched your perfect body with her mind (J. Taylor)[/SIZE][SIZE=2]


[/SIZE]
Attachment 145771

[Karen564]

No, I cant say that I have any regrets about my name Karen, I was the one that picked it & I did so because I admired my God parents daughter so much when I was little, I loved being around her & wished I could be just like her because she was so beautiful & feminine..hell, I used to wish I was her!!!

But before I went ahead & did my legal name change, I had 1st asked my Mom if her & my dad had a girls name picked out before I was born to be ready either way, but she said no, they did not & did not even come up with my male name until the day after I was delivered.... So that was a bit of a disappointment hearing that because I would of been perfectly willing to give up my persona name of Karen that I used since the age of 8 in order to take on a girl name that my parents would of given me if there was one..(it would of been so cool to have what would of been my original birth name as a girl)

So,,,, Karen it stayed and is is my Legal name plus my new middle name to (since Karen bruce just wouldn't sound right...lol) but kept my last name (which btw is not really 564...lol).. At school, many call me by my middle name (which is not bruce...lol)

The only one that has a problem with my new legal name is my sister, because her daughter is also named Karen, who is also not happy with me, even though our middle & last names are totally different...my sister & niece told me that had they known when my name change court date was, that they would of filed an objection to it...but I really doubt the judge would of denied my request because of their reasoning...
Anyway, my name created a rift with them...But hey, it's their problem really, not mine because it's so stupid when you boil it down for what it is......I was like I'm sorry, but your not the boss of me....lol