This morning when I was standing in line for the cash machine at the bank I spotted a crossdresser waiting to speak to one of the managers.
Positive I.D. I'm sure, and it got me to thinking how much I've changed in the last few years.
I remember about ten years ago I helped a CD in my store. She was dressed to the nines, very nicely, but about 6'3", broad shoulders, and no doubt a CD. I remember giggling after, along with the rest of the sales help-- but feeling kinda shitty and stupid later.
Then a few years ago as I got interested in the subject, if I spotted a CD I was curious. I certainly didn't feel like giggling, and remembered that time with shame. Instead I felt like approaching her and asking a few polite questions, but I didn't. Somehow it seemed intrusive, especially with a stranger.
Today when I spotted the CD in the bank I felt compassion. My first thought was, "Hey, there's a crossdresser". And the next immediate thought was, "Damn! I spotted her, but hurray for her I think she's passing for the most part".
I know for certain that I've gotten people around me who are completely clueless to re-think their reactions if they come across a CD, that staring or smirking is childish and uncool. When they find out the topic of the story I'm writing they're usually curious and ask questions. Some people say to me, "But I just don't get it". I answer, "That's not as important as being adult about it. Aren't there plenty of things in the world you don't underststand? Don't you think a CD who's brave enough to go out, especially alone, has enough to deal with without someone who knows better, staring at them? If it's all you can do to think of a crossdresser as a person with feelings, then that's a positive thing, and it benefits you as a person, not just them and their privacy".
I know for a fact I can't win everyone over. There are several people in my life that have their heels firmly planted in ignorance and fear. But the few who listen, may they will pass it on. I can only hope so.
Anyway, just sharing an observation that seemed appropriate here.