Kissing Like a Woman? Advice Needed

[Aislinn]

Good morning everyone. I just joined the board today because I am in desperate need of advice. I am 32 years old and I have been crossdressing since I was 6. I've managed to keep it a secret all these years. However tomorrow I have my first "date" with a man I am not passable at all - I have hair on my legs and a men's haircut, but this wonderful man sees me as the woman that is inside me and wants to treat me like a woman no matter what my outside looks like. I already have picked out an outfit and I will be dressed completely as a woman.

I am equally nervous and excited because tomorrow will be the first that I will be kissed by a man. I have kissed girls many times, but I've never been the girl being kissed. I can't wait to experience that, but I don't really know how to kiss like a girl. How to be the receiver instead of the initiator.

Any girls out here have any advice as to how I can kiss like a woman?

[Kathi Lake]

I say don't worry about it so much and just do what feels right. Also, I doubt that he will be interested in a boatload of romance, if people's experiences on this board can be trusted. I say be safe and don't put yourself into a situation that you will regret.

Kathi

[Aislinn]

Thank you for your advice. I know once I'm dressed up and wtih him, that my instincts will probably take over and it will be okay. I'm just nervous. I've had butterflies all day. I know you're probably right about not getting a lot of romance, but I'm hoping I do. He said he wants to kiss and make out, so I'm hoping he means it. I've already promised him a happy ending, but I'm hoping he wants to kiss and make out also.

[Kathi Lake]

Aislinn, don't you know that a girl has to have a bit of mystery? If he knows that there is going to be a "happy ending" then he will want to skip all those boring chapters and get right to the conclusion.

By the way, I sure hope that there isn't a spouse or other person involved in this - on either side. What you're doing could have serious repercussions - and i don't just mean fewer butterflies.

Kathi

[Aislinn]

I never thought about a girl having mystery. I guess it's that I've kept this part of my hidden away for 32 years that I'm excited to find someone who accepts and I wanted him to know that I wasn't going to be a waste of his time. All I promised was touching, nothing more. And no, there aren't any other people involved. I'm recently divorced and he is older and widowed.

[Stephenie S]

Dear Aislinn,

One thing you can be absolutely sure of here is that this fellow doesn't have much kissing on his mind. Don't worry about the kissing. You will figure THAT out pretty quickly.

Now what I DO what you to worry about is your own personal safety. Be VERY sure that you will be safe. Meet in a public place like the dining area of a local mall, or maybe the post office. Make absolutely certain that a trusted friend knows where you are, where you are going (call her/him if you don't know beforehand), and when you are coming back.

If things get that far (and I'm sure they will if your new friend wants to "treat you like a lady") USE A CONDOM!!!! Just be safe, hon. We want you to come back and tell us all about it, OK?

Stephie