I post this here because I'm FtM, but I don't really care what you are if you have something to add to this thread.
Yes, I know... I'm that annyoing guy who posts once a year and promises to post more often!
Honestly - the reason is that I don't know what to do with myself, naturally I keep being attracted to FTM-related stuff, but at the same time it depresses me.
Not because I can't be happy for you guys who are transitioning, and it's nice to see your progress. But it makes me depressed because I'm still stuck in a female body, and also it makes me feel like an "outsider"... I feel like I'm the only one who isn't transitioning. I can't tell you about my progress - I can only repeat the same old topics and ask the same questions, because I'm stuck in the exact same spot where I was when I first came out as a transguy.
And... now my hopes have finally been destroyed completely. I suspected it, but never really dared to ask anyone before, because I didn't want such a final answer as I got today - there is no way I can transition, because my body can't take the hormone treatment. I found out through an unrelated health problem, where I was treated with a small dose of male hormones and had a bad reaction to them. I asked if this meant that T would be out of the question, and the reply I got is that it would most likely kill me.
So this is it... I am stuck in a female body, with being a gay man who's being read as a lesbian woman, and unable to experience love because my mind/appearance don't go with my body.
Even though transition has seemed out of reach for me for a while now, the fact that is is now absolutely over and out of the question is very hard to accept.
I don't know if anyone else on here is in the same situation... FtM or MtF.
How do you deal with it if you really can't transition?
How do you accept it... CAN you even accept it?
And do you have that problem too, where you look for others like you for support, but then feel left behind and not a part of the community when "everyone else" is transitioning?
I also hate the fact that everyone's attitude is "great, problem solved... you're a girl again". No I'm NOT!! The fact that I can't transition doesn't mean that I am now going to stop worrying about it and start a new life as a woman. And that attitude really scares me, because I realise that unless I transition, I am not going to be taken seriously as a transguy. I'm so sick of "you like men, and woman can wear pants too... what's your problem?".