Originally Posted by
mklinden2010
I think you're overstating women's ability to wear whatever they want, particularly at work.
For example, female engineers I know HAVE to wear the same boots, jeans, shirts, and hard hat as the males at their jobs - even when they know they'll not be in the field for weeks at a time.
Let me tell you, their "attractiveness" quotient goes way down and it bums them out:
"After a while, it gets to you. Men are so visual, which is OK, but there's no way to present yourself to someone you're interested in that's any different from what everyone else is wearing."
Worse, when there is a holiday party or something, everyone "freaks out" when they see each other in something besides work clothes. Everybody looks different and it's difficult to settle back down to work for about two weeks:
"Damn Christmas and New Year's - shocks to the system!"
It was a surprising battle, thirty and forty years ago, when women started arguing they should be able to wear pants, anywhere, anytime. There were a lot of objections to that and much of it not very nice. But, nowadays no one thinks much about it. The "invention of the pant-suit" probably did enough to mollify most the objections.
"OK, that's not really menswear... Fine."
But, the battle is still on. When I encounter some GG who uses makeup to "fake" beards, wears "rough and ready" mens clothes, stuffs their pants to make "the bulge," who talk low "like a man," and cusses, I am still taken aback and HOPING that they are a competent person in their work and are able to relate pleasantly with others. If they're not able to do either, then we have a problem that has nothing to do with clothes or gender.
I hate it when that happens...
And, they're not all hot to me. I love grandma, but she's long past being "hot."
As she'd tell you herself:
"Hot? I've been hot and that was nice. But, nowadays I'd just be happy to have warm feet."
On the other hand, of course, are the women required to wear hose, heals, business suits, or whatever at work. That gets tiresome as well. It's expensive, it can be very uncomfortable, and you can get a lot of unwanted attention from, er, "admirers."
"Sometimes, clothes just mess everything up. It's not all Disneyland, everyday. Anybody who thinks hose and dresses should be the uniform for everybody just isn't paying attention to what goes on on oil rigs, how many groceries have to be lugged inside from the car each week, that kids climb like monkeys, or, that it's friggin' raining all the time in Seattle."