Well so my day was ok argued with wife over phone over a few small things.. petty really but then I come home and go upstairs to change. Soon as I walk into room the place where I hid my stuff is on the bed.. I know I'm busted and there is a piece of paper saying "F*ck You"! So I sit on the bed for a second knowing this is not going to be a good conversation since I've been there a few times before in the past. I call up the wife to talk she says "I don't want to talk I need to finish dinner" I tell her that I am sorry first off and its not her so dont hate herself cause I know what she is thinking. She has blamed herself in the past for me doing this thinking it is something she has done or is lacking to give to me.. I tell her of course that it is bullshit and that I do love her and only her (which is 100% true). I tell her "I will throw the items away on my day off so i pack them up and put them away.. knowing that I will have to go back to either not doing it or hiding it again and starting the cycle over again.
I hug her and say I'll try to get counseling anything idk.. what does she want me too do. I wish I could change like a push of a magic button for her.. it sucks.. this feeling yet I cant change my brain..
I sometimes wonder if I was dead would things be better for them I know they would have a hell of alot of cash from my insurance money.. course I dont want this nor do I want to do anything rash (im not suicidal so dont thing that people.. but it does make one think if gone would things move on more easier).
So now wife is reminded of this and its hanging over my head..
i say if you want a divorce I wont hold u.. she of course says she doesnt... since this isnt first time shes found these type of items (being womens clothing of course).. usually she throws them away.. and either tells me or didnt.. so I knew she knew .. but this time nope a note and the items on the bed!
She closed with saying "I would rather have you cheat on me.. I could deal with that easier.."
Sorry to rant but I have NO ONE I can talk to about this.. I feel very alone.. very dead inside.. idk.. sorry to rant