First off, Sherry does NOT appear to be one woman, but MANY women. All of them from my fantasy ID! They ALL seem to inspire lust and try to entice, charm, and finally seduce me!
Sherry does NOT feel like my creation, but rather like a somewhat familiar, but little known or understood female. Sort of like meeting a stranger for quickies occasionally.
I've reached the point where I don't mind sharing her with others. But, NOT our "intimacy"!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
It's impossible to imagine having NO reaction to donning all the delightful clothes that we wear en femme. They are sensual, and they are mean to be sensual. The endorphins flow, no doubt about it. That's SENsual, for me, not SEXual.
I'm in a monogamous hetersexual relationship, and adding Tina to that mix would not explain who Tina is (and that is the goal!). LOL...well, maybe it has! Tina enjoys her girlfriend (my wife, if you follow), and by keeping any sexual activity out of that relationship, Tina has been able to focus on building a girlfriend-type relationship, which is very important to Tina. Maybe someday Tina will be so comfortable with being a girlfriend that she could move on to other personal issues, but than again, "He" takes care of all that pretty well. Why fix what's not broken
Interesting thought. I have no interest in having a "meaningfull" relationship with a man but I must admit that sometimes when I am dressed I do think about having sex with a man. Indeed I have done so on a few occasions.Originally Posted by MsMjSerene
In almost every case - imagined or real - my desire has been to be penetrated rather than to penetrate.
Make of that what you will.
When my late wife was alive we occasionaly brought CD'ing into our sex life! She has been gone for over 5 years, and I am like Karren. I don't even know what sex is anymore!! Still know what crossdressing is though!!
Stephanie
Lady on the outside, but man underneath!
I have long known that there is, for me, a hard-wired connection between cd-ing and sex. I dress for pleasure and it never lets me down. Lookin back to about age 5, I understood that pretty women, in person or in magazines and catalogs, had an effect on me that I liked. It took me a long time to believe this, but I think they were actual sexual sensations, even at that early age. Somehow I also understood that I should probably (and did) keep these thoughts to myself. From the time I actually began playing with lipstick and high heels, through the teen years when I occasionally put on my sister's clothes, and into decades of adulthood of making up and dressing completely, it's always been about arousal and pleasure. To me, more is better. If high heels are good, higher heels are better, sexier. If makeup is good, heavier makeup is better. If eyelashes are good, long thick eyelashes are prettier. The darker and redder lipstick is, the more I like it, and the more heavily applied the better. And so on: painted nails, short skirts, glittery jewelry, wigs, etc. Whatever is feminine, I want them to be the most feminine possible. That's what does it for me. Even when I can't make up and dress, images of it can arouse me.
My ultimate fantasy, I'm sure to be forever unfulfilled, is to be with a beautiful woman, both of us made up and dressed to maximum glamour in the style I adore (more is better), and delaying the touching of our lips (heavy dark red lipstick) until the moment of release. Surely a lipstickity train wreck of a mess, but one easily handled after the pleasure subsides.
Yes, for me, crossdressing IS sex, and sex IS crossdressing.
Unfortunately that recently happened to me. When the CD I was with and I were done with relations, she became repulsed and couldn't wait to get into her drab clothes and have me leave. I felt so ashamed.
I'm genetically female. And yes, we had sexual relations. I don't want to derail the thread, was more commenting on the way her drive to crossdress vanished after the sexual urge was satisfied, along with her desire to be with me.
I love it here, especially because it gives me a chance to get back on that bicycle.
I think that having a relationship of shame with sexual turn-ons is very common with men, and women too! I think part of maturing is to be able to integrate the sexual aspects of one's life with the rest.
This is a very interesting thread and I've enjoyed reading all the responses. Sex and crossdressing are definitely connected for me. I love the sensations and look of women's clothes on me. Although I don't get aroused all the time I feel sexually charged when dressed if that makes sense. I am only attracted to women and making love with my wife while wearing panties, other lingerie items intensifies the experience for me and I am more in tune with her pleasure as well. I love to hang out at home when the wife and kids are gone in satin/nylon lingerie and sometimes it ends in sexual release, other times it doesn't.
very interesting thread..........the sa in Macys this morning who helped me with my perfume purchase got me thinking about
the relationship between sex and crossdressing.This perticular sa wasn't very pretty, if at all, but she was
wearing one killer, form fitting black mini dress that made her overall look outstanding..I couldn't keep my eyes
off of her.She was very shapely and extremely sexual as she kept tugging at the dresses hem to keep it from riding
up towards her hips..Yes, I was attacted to her looks but spent the rest of the morning and part of the
afternoon looking for a similar dress for myself.I want to tug at my own hem as the dress rides up towards
MY hips...The ultimate turn on would be to have on the exact dress she was wearing right after she took it off
but thats way too much kink for this forum.As a crossdresser, the only sexual component of any piece of
clothing only exists if and when you put that item on...cding is part fantasy, part imagination, part stimulation
and the purest dreams.....dana
I am not interested in men at all, it doesn't matter if I'm dressed up or not. However, I am very attracted to a good looking CD, even though I know it's a man. That doesn't bother me at all and I've gladly accepted it. I almost always get turned on when I dress, so it's usually about sex for me, but not always. Sometimes I just dress to try something new to see how it looks.
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It may not be P.C. to say, but I am a classic transvestic autogynophile. My expression takes the form of a devotional ritual, and is thoroughly drenched in the idea and feeling of myself as a sex goddess. I enjoy myself this way for 4 or 5 hours, and then go back to being the boyish but otherwise seemingly normal male person the world knows me as.
When I slip into some silk or satin lingerie it always seems to lead right to hours of sexual fun!
Sorry to hear about your partner showing so much shame. Be assured it wasn't about you. You just happened to be witnessing the painful inner struggle of a closeted and transphobic sister who is probably just putting a toe in the water. For anyone having an alternative sexuality (LGBT), often the hardest thing to accept is sex that brings you the deepest sense of pleasure and self expression--cause it puts you at odds with the false self you have carried for so long. Shame is always about revealing. It sounds like your CD got a revelation she wasn't ready for. Don't give up on CDs though, just find one who has integrated their sense of self a little better. Hugs, Andie
Thank you so much!
I just love the feeling of a bra and hose, and lipstick and the entire idea of being a woman.
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Not absolutely certain there is a connection. My right hand just keeps falling asleep.
At first i also thought that it was sexual, but then again i under dress in panties and pantyhose almost everyday,and there's nothing sexual about that. Some time's Maria needs to get out, so mostly at night i go driving around dressed, there are times when bus or truck drivers stare at my legs while driving. As much as woman love the attention, Maria like's it as well but it doesn't mean i want anything to do with the driver.
Andi, a very perceptive post. Being happy with onesself is the pinical of self esteem. I think cordgrass will eventually find someone very happy with themself and then they will both be happy.
I'd be lying if I said there wasn't a frisson associated with dressing. I'm a heterosexual male so I would expect to find Debs attractive in some way because I wear the sort of clothes I like on GGs. This is another thing. I had lousy luck with women in male mode. I met the right girl and married her, but I was just not attractive to many girls at all, but now dressed I get attention from males in clubs etc. It can be a rush, but I don't find them attractive, and sometimes find them a little bit seedy. Thing is as well, that they are fancying me because of what I am, not because of who I am
I have always been a day-dreamy person like you. Usually It's thoughts of dominating someone sexually and what not. Lately though ever since I have been looking more and more into CDing I have as well been feeling that I want to be dominated. I am starting to see myself in more of a girls body sexually. Of course since i work in a casino I see all the girls coming out of clubs and stuff and instantly my brain goes from girly to full blows man-rage!
This is a serious bummer and you deserve way better. Not to derail thread either.
for me the more I have become comfortable in my femme side, i have become more interested in men. It did not start this way and would never have predicted it.
well there is sex, as in the act there of. for me cross dressing does not invoke such.
then there is sexy, as in how one looks/feels. i fit in here very well. i love feeling sexy, even if just in my mind. i have plenty of sexy items to put on. (not as in ****ty)
then there is the sex between a couple. i am not a couple so nothing there.
i guess this is a start, and were it lands is anyone's guess.
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dressing and sex.... none.. none at all.... dressing is an expression of me.. i wear girls clothes out of comfort.. and out of need(34b) and because a girl should look nice.. no sexual reasons at all.....
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