I have to tell my story...some of you may know it already. I have been a crossdresser my whole life. I have also been alone with this my whole life. By choice. I have also been married 16 years and have 3 children. For most of my life, it has been a hidden world for me. Dressing at night, in the basement when everybody is asleep. I had to do this because not doing it would end my marriage. About 2 years ago, my wife discovered my secret world. As most of you can guess, this did not turn out good. She did not understand it, and gave me the ultimatum to stop or get out. I went to therapy for a while. For the next year I dressed on and off... the desire was always there. I would shave some of my hair off, this would start the questions. Are you doing it again? I know you are, you are sick. This has to stop. Still I could not fully stop. Dressing at night in the basement. Until July 2009. I had 16 days at home alone(wife and kids were in Europe). I lived as Jenna for 3 days, 24/7. Fully shaved and loving it! I also bought some toys to play with, and loved it. That was until I realized that I was doing this in secret. The guilt overwhelmed me and I threw everything away. When I reunited with my wife, she noticed the shaving and went ballistic. I have to say that I cannot blame her, as she does not accept this world. I stopped dressing for 14 months, until I had a business trip for 4 days in October of this year. I went all out. Beautiful lingerie, wigs, makeup, and of course, toys to play with. The first night away, I shaved parts of my body and got all dressed up in the hotel room. I spent the whole night as Jenna and was in my glory. But in the morning the guilt crept back in and I threw everything away again. I have not dressed since, but think about it all of the time. I love my wife and do not want to hurt her. She will never accept this world, so talking to her is out of the question. I feel so much at peace when I am Jenna, but if I cannot have her all the way, it is not right. If there is anybody out there who can offer some advice, or just a friend to talk to, please reach out to me. There is so much more I need to tell, but this is getting long already.