After screwing it up once last month, I discussed my desire to dress with my wife last night. I used some of the good advice, particularly the threads by Marla GG, and was completely and totally honest about it. Having just dressed for the first time during our twenty year marriage (the urge has always been there but has gone through the roof lately) I just couldn't not tell her and keep going.
The discussion was the hardest thing I ever did in my life and telling her that I have the "urge to dress in women's clothes" was like the first time I ever stepped out of the door of an airplane with similar results in my mind - either the chute would open or. . .
We talked for awhile and her concerns were very reasonable: was there more to this i.e. did I want to become a woman - no; was there anything else I hadn't told her - no and I would have said something when we first started out if I had to act and not just fantisize about dressing; and would this eclipse time with the family - absolutely not! In the end, this amazingly strong and resilient soul mate of mine didn't let me down. She was clearly shaken, as anyone would be, and wanted time to digest this let me know that she still loved me and that this would be OK. She even suggested that she might eventually be involved with it. I absolutely adore this woman and consider this possibly the best result I could have hoped for.
I've read Marla GG's thread "Now I Like It, Now I Don't" and there is some great information as to how to proceed. I'd like to hear from anyone who has been down this road and what they think worked for them. I'd really like to hear from the GG's and what there thoughts and feelings were.
I really don't want to screw this up. I absolutely adore my wife and feel guilty for adding yet another burden to her full plate but I couldn't NOT tell her. I want to make this as easy for her as I possibly can and any suggestions to this end would be appreciated.
Thanks,
Debby