YES!!! But my g.f. wouldnt approve.
YES!!! But my g.f. wouldnt approve.
No i would not get facial feminization, never ever. Even if i like to cross the gender-limits as far as possible i am still male. I have never been thinking of surgery, it seems very unhealthy. Even taking hormones seem to me very risky and playing with fire. i am happy with who i am both as male and female and both sides are needed.
I would not need anything very radical to be done with me. My forehead is rounded and I do not have a brow ridge, and my jaw is not broad and square. About the only changes I would want would be a narrower and smaller nose and a chin lift, and I would leave it at that.
I don't have an Adams apple in spite of having a very deep voice and long vocal cords.
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In a perfect world where I'd have unlimited funds, yes, in a heartbeat.. I'd go all the way.. FFS, SRS, hair transplant, breast implants, etc, etc.. the whole 9 yards and do everything necessary to look like a supermodel.. Oh yes
I don't think I'd go all out on the FFS, but there are things that I would get done if I had the coin and the time. Face lift, get rid of the excess skin around my chin, reduce the size of my nose, and maybe slightly fuller lips. These are things that (minorly) bother me whether I am in femme or drab mode.
I'm too old to go for Full FFS, but I'd like to improve my looks just a little. Just enough so I didn't feel like I lost a fight with cement mixer or was only one generation removed from the Neanderthal side of the family.
Sarah
Being transgender isn't a lifestyle choice. How you deal with it is.
I agree with the "isolating" factor Reine mentioned when changing your appearence.
I'm currently doing online dating. Looking for a woman age 45 to 60.
While scrolling thru their pictures, suddenly a pretty 20 something y/o face appeared!
On careful examination, it turned out her age was 57 and her body looked it! So, do I want to date an older lady with a 27 year old's face? NOT ON YOUR LIFE!
She appeared to be a freak of nature! Probably an extreme face lift? But in any case, WAY TOO CREEPY FOR ME! And remember, I'm a CDing, blowup doll, manikin!
I believe when u perminantly alter your appearance, u will ultimately alienate some of your friends and aquintances. Which means finding new folks, (see; TG friendly), that ACCEPT the new u, or u simply must do with LESS FRIENDS!
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U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
To answer the OP's simplistic question: If I had the money, time, not in the military, and most of all, approval from the wife, I'd definitely do it!
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I think everyone has their reasons for wanting a change. For most of my younger adult life, I thought I needed the opposite treatment - male facial surgery. It was really tough being 35 years old and still looking like Opie Taylor from the Andy Griffith TV Show or John Boy Walton from the Walton's TV show. Even worse is when people tell you that you look more like John Boy's sister. It was tough gaining respect from people or to have them take you serious. I would have given anything to look more macho back then.
Having said that, I learned to follow Starla's advice and made the best of it. No matter how unfortunate I felt about my appearance, I always reminded myself there were people all over the world that were enduring terrible disfigurements from either birth defects or tragic mishaps. Sure, I think many of us including me would still like to tweak our looks. If granted only one wish though, I would help those in desperate need before myself. As for me today, I am so thankful for wondrous invention of cosmetics. Where would the challenge be if I didn't have to work at creating my feminine appearance?
Babette
Someone else's imagination is a terrible thing to waste.
NEVER!! I was born a man, anjd always will be a man! I love to wear feminine clothing, but have no desire at all to be a woman! That is part of the reason why my late wife and I had a happy marriage for almost 50 years! She knew from a time before we married that I crossdressed, but also knew that no matter what I wore I was always a man underneath! The Good Lord willing, that will stay that way until I die!
Stephanie
Lady on the outside, but man underneath!
Humm .... as a part-time crossdresser, it's not really a viable option for money reasons, my wife wouldn't like it, and the fact I'm not full-time. I guess in another world, another time, another place, with more money and if I was full-time, then yeah, I think I'd like to reduce my brow ridge, adjust my nose, and have cheek implants and fuller lips.
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I don't know what "freak of nature" means. But, I agree that non-surgical changes can be made as you describe and there are also some minor facial surgeries, but these are not full FFS as stated in the initial post.
FFS involves forehead reconstruction, brow lift, jaw & chin reduction, tracheal shave, and likely a nose job & lip lift as well, perhaps cheekbone reconstruction, and if the individual is older, perhaps also a face lift, neck lift, and neck and chin liposuction in order to stretch the skin over all the newly remodeled bones.
Maybe some people here use the term FFS when they rather mean just making a few minor changes. But when you go to plastic surgeons' sites and look at the work done to transitioning TSs, it is apparent that FFS is much more than this.
Reine
There are things that I have thought about changing. But I dont think I need or even would want many of the full FFS procedures.
I have thought about a nose job to make it smaller, less knobby, and to make my lips fuller and a little better balanced between my nose and chin. Thats pretty much the extent of my primary wish list. If money and time werent a concern, I might consider a tracheal shave, a slight reshape of my chin and some higher cheeks. But I already have slight features for a man. Id basically want to just plump a few things up a bit, and shave a few others down.
Given that, I see too many botched jobs, both on celebrities, and on your average citizen. I am highly reluctant to try anything. Now if celebrities, with all their money and influence cant get a decent job done, what chance have I? Last thing I want to look like is a freak of nature (aka Micheal Jackson). Ive seen too many Hollywood plastic that looked just plain unnatural. Balance that with all the work that didnt turn out as expected (scarring, unbalanced and misshapen) I really dont know how willing I would be, even given the money and time. But thats just me. I have also seen some extraordinary work out there, where one would be hard pressed to tell if something was done, if you hadnt seen the before and after pics. But knowing my luck...
That said. I really dont think its that difficult to live a dual life with feminine features. Ive dealt with it most of my life. The hardest part was when young, and being teased by classmates and bullies. I really havent gotten much flack as Ive gotten older, even with the other things Ive done (plucked brows, long nails, etc) that enhance these features. I think it mostly comes down to attitude.
Thats my two cents.
Eve
in a heartbeat and anything else i could get for good measure
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If i were suddenly magically wealthy, i would have alot of work done, but strictly to feminize? No.
For me it would be a matter of tweaking and fixing the nose, some fairly extreme dental work and removing some folds on the eye lids. None of it would be femininization per say, but the end result would deffinitely go along ways to towards being prettier ala femme.
This work would also go along ways towards making my male self happier as well, so no, it wouldn't necessarily have to be about femininizing. Sorry, if that is not in the spirit of the thread.
Cassie
If I didn't have a strong guy identity, as well as my femme identity, I think I would do everyhting in my power to go down the full route, no holds barred. I am visual and artistic person that seeks perfection.
There was a recent thread about "middle-path" people, and I am one of them. So I guess thus rules me out of the FFS category.
If somehow they can have Cindy Crawford hair implanted into my bald scalp, then I will gladly go through the surgery. I also mean hair that will continue to grow and look healthy and beautiful. Other than that, no, unless I was to go full time, which I will never do.
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Only if it was in a computerized fantasy world
I'm to old n ugly to change the wrapper on this pkg.
I just look in the mirror and look deep into my soul to see my inner self, the problem is I just can't project that image oh well.
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Well SRS is usually done only if it is a case of absolutely necessary if it is possible to live without it then do without it. Likewise so is FFS if a person feels that they absolutely must do it and cannot live without it (and have the ability to pay for it) then carefully choose the surgeon and go for it. So many of the things we CD's do is expensive and FFS is just one more case where that is true.
Given the fact that GG's have basically the same types of faces and some do look very masculine I would spend the money learning all the make up tricks that the experts know and use successfully for them.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. Mark Twain
You can go here: http://allaboutffs.blogspot.com/2010...alffscouk.html to see what you might look like give various procedures- not advocating anyone get them but they'd give you an idea of how much good it would do. Myself, I'd like to see what makeup, wigs and attitude can do- it's likely about as much as FFS could. That said, there are lots of males I know with very feminine faces. Being CD you notice these things If you were relocating, etc probably nobody would notice but having it done without tons of other life changes would likely be a shock to those who know you.
I wouldn't trust a graphic designer just going in and altering a photo... you just play with the warp tool and clone stamps and you can make the face look like ANYTHING (really, anything...even a 50 eyed alien). What you can do with photoshop FAR outdistances what you can do with surgery or where our technology is at and the reasonable expectations of surgery.