Poking around to try and find local resources or groups I decided to look up Tri Ess as a good starting point, since it seems to be pretty common and mentioned here a lot.
I kinda got halted at the front page of the official website because partway down in quotation marks, it specifies:
"An international social and support group for heterosexual crossdressers, their partners, the spouses of married crossdressers and their families."
While I find a great joy in the fact there is a large org that deals in transgender issues, it saddens me it comes off exclusive and less than optimal a resource for those of us that are homosexual.