hi guys,
not having a great one today, thought i'd come to the forums and ask about your mothers and/or relationships with mother figures and how you have got on with them throughout your life. i can share with you that mine is so hate-filled and sick with misandry that i don't think i can continue to be a part of her life. i have tried so hard all my life to fight this abomination she calls "men ruining everything" and its little wonder i could not realize my true identity for 3 decades through all the hate and vitriol. even discussing other topics like capitalism or religion always brings her back to the man-hating parade and it's making me sick with sadness.
i'm a bit shaken up from getting off the phone from her earlier today and again not seeing eye to eye on the feminism/misandry debate. i used to consider myself an avid feminist until i continued to read on everything feminism is. steeped in complete man-hatred and blame, how do these women reconcile their sexual/romantic feelings for men?
i know they have had to fight hard and still are against violence and cruelty by some men but today's modern feminist borders on psychotically sick people who despise an entire gender. when i asked my mother if she would still continue to hate men even if they tried to make amends for all the ills their forefathers have done, her answer was yes. absolutely. feminists want respect from men, yet still want the right to continue hating us. why bother expecting change at all then, if it's going to be so ill-received?
i have deep respect, admiration and love for women and i support women's rights, but i can no longer stomach being hated for something i am not. i realize that even as one single man here i'll never make a difference, but how will any man make a difference in how we are received after hundreds of years of abuse? i feel so sad how sometimes men are viewed as disposable pieces of garbage, yet it's an unspeakable crime to hurt a woman. where is the equality or humanity in that? how are your mothers about men and if any of you have lived with feminism or misandry, how has it affected you as a man?