When we are here on the forum discussing topics it gets really tiresome having to defend every other statement because someone is offended at an innocent generalization. I realize that we are all different, that we all fall at a different place on the gender spectrum and that we all have different motivations and desires and reasons for doing the things we do and talking about the things we talk about.
Here is the thing when looking at a subculture such as ours or any for that matter it is hard not to generalize. We all generalize at one point or another in our posts. A good example is "Gender and Sexuality are separate and independent of each other" That is an easy generalization for most (on this forum) to swallow. But for me personally it isn't true. Having said that I don't find it offensive in the least. Most crossdressers who identify as women at least part of the time are Heterosexual and as such hold to that standard and thats fine.
Recently I asked a couple of questions one "why are we so afraid of being thought of as gay" (please don't answer in this thread) "We" (and we includes me or did at one time) is a collective statement in that context meant to include the heterosexual crossdressing community. I know it is not everyone, but anyone with a shred of intellectual honesty can deny that as a community we are hung up on broadcasting our heterosexuality. Is it a generalization sure, are there many exceptions absolutely. Is it a wrong or incorrect statement. No it is not.
The other was a question about BDSM which for whatever reason is a noticeable topic on this forum. So I asked a question about a topic I am trying to understand because quite a lot of people talk about it here. Any internet search on crossdressing will pull hundreds of sites that deal with that topic. So saying "It seems to be quite popular in our community" is a true and correct statement. It is quite popular in our community. I realize that not everybody wants to associated with such behavior and understand those concerns. What I said certainly doesn't mean everybody and I am sure not even most. It does exist however and like it or not it is popular and quite visible to outsiders.
My point is this it is not fair to generalize when it suits you when it presents the image that you agree with and are comfortable projecting. and then to jump down my and other members throats when it something you don't like.
The first paragraph of this post is a generalization that is made here on this forum over and over and over. It just happens to be easy to take for most and for most it is true so there is nothing wrong with saying it.
A Stereotype is not the same thing! All are "insert" I have never stereotyped anyone and I never would!