My wife and I had a weekend get away. We started out driving and I swapped my pants for some shorts. I was wearing a men's top, shorts, socks, and shoes. I was wearing women's nude pantyhose. We stopped at a mall and did some heels shopping for my wife (they don't have MY size). We spent about an hour in the shoe department. The attendant who was helping us never showed any sign of noticing my outfit, but sometimes attendants are cool like that. Then we walked over to the men's department and found me some exercise pants. I noticed an older woman who was sitting on a display look me up and down, but that was it. Maybe another guy noticed something odd... He was waiting in line. Beyond that, I was invisible. That is my normal experience. My wife is "tolerating" of this stuff. She was uncomfortable about going in with me dressed this way, but allowed it. During this shopping trip, she acted like she forgot how I was dressed. At the start, she seemed nervous similar to how I would get when I would first go out dressed like this.
After the mall, we stopped at a gas station. As soon as I walked in the door, something that never happens happened. One (or maybe two) of the clerks looked at me and then looked immediately at my legs. It was obvious that she noticed. She started smiling. In almost no time the second (of three) clerks was smiling too. I went about my business. I couldn't find any "Super Bubble" bubble gum. I was looking over my options and I was pretty much in view of them for a couple minutes. Then she said, "You can't find it?" We spoke briefly about what I was looking for. No odd reactions. Then I made my selection and the first woman checked me out. She still had a funny smile, but she was professional. I asked her, "You noticed, didn't you?" She played coy and said, "Noticed what?" I said, "My outfit." She said, "Yes," and blushed. I said, "Most people don't notice. Is it obvious?" She answered, "Oh yeah." I said, "I don't see how you women don't love these things," and she responded "Oh, no," and she lost that smile briefly. I asked her, "Is it bad?" She said, "I guess not if you've got that," in reference to my wedding ring. We finished up our transaction and I smiled and said, "Get yourself one more good look!" I backed up and sort of put my leg out. She smiled bigger and took a good look. Later, my wife and I were in the car about to leave and she came out to help someone. She walked in front of my car. She made eye contact with me and smiled. I waved and she waved back. For the rest of the trip, I was invisible again.
That woman looked at my legs immediately as people would look down when I have gone out in a skirt as a man. I don't know why. I have been in full sun in front of people and the never paid me any attention. Maybe she likes to look at legs or something. I don't know.
I am southern. Therefore, I am well trained to never even mention race. But I will in this case, so please pardon me. This woman was black and over 40. I have found that black women over 35 are pretty cool about this stuff. I have had three women come out and talk to me about it openly without me starting the conversation when I have gone out in a skirt. Two of them dropped everything they were doing and attached themselves to me and basically interviewed me. They had no experience with a crossdresser before. They were just very curious. They had all of the rookie questions and everything. One stuck with me in the mall. She was over 60. We ended up sitting and eating ice cream together. The other woman sat by me on the plane. She was asking me all kinds of questions in full voice. I kept shushing her. She stuck with me all the way until we had both found our luggage. Does anyone know why older black women are this way? It is fascinating (and great).