Originally Posted by
RachelOKC
American society once didn't approve of interracial marriage, women wearing pants, or ownership of real property by people who were not white males. Society is often wrong about a great many things that people in the minority do. When enough people in the minority demonstrate that there is nothing to be feared, society will change.
Children are going to be picked on for anything and everything, including who and what their parents are. Believe me, I got made fun of for a lot of things about my parents. Their cars were the oldest on the block. My dad looked kind of like Hitler. He wasn't good at sports like the other dads. He was called a warmonger since he was in the military. Those all hurt, but you know what? My parents told me to turn the other cheek because there was nothing to be ashamed of. Should we be ashamed of being transgender? I don't think so, and I don't think that society gets a vote in the matter.
Kids (and many partners) will use anything in an argument. If we're not ashamed of ourselves and have taught our kids to respect differences in others, then why would this be more problematic than something else? I think it only becomes ammunition when we load it with the potential to wound - the fear and self-loathing that so often accompanies being transgender. We don't have to feel these things, and we don't have to let other people use them against us.