Fetlife

[Pythos]

What is this?

I have been referred to it a couple of times but the name puts me off. I have heard it could be a good meeting place for women that like CDers, but that name implies fetish, which to a big extent I am leery of.

Anyone here part of this group?

[Barbara Dugan]

Its a good place to explore and if you are into certain fetishes ...yes I believe you will find much more open minded ladies there

[DonniDarkness]

Well it looks cool so im going to see whats up. ill post back any info.

-Donni-

[BRANDYJ]

I've been a member of fetlife since it's early days. It is for anyone into any type of what we call kink. Mainly for those that are into any number of things that fall under the way to broad umbrella of BDSM. I hate that what I'm into is under that umbrella. (Dominant/submissive) D/s It includes things like bondage, spankings and of course women that are, or like to be the Dominant one over men. This of course includes women that like crossdressers since many, if not most are very accepting of other alternate lifestyles.
Yes, it can be a place to meet whatever you are into. fill out a profile, state what you are looking for and just maybe a match will come your way. Same can be said for bondage.com I met the love of my life there over 4 years ago.

[JamieTG]

I have met women who have fetishes or are into BDSM and they are definitely more open minded. Especially the BDSM crowd. A lot of dominant women like Xdressers. I'm not sure why you are leery of people with fetishes but it if the fetish lifestyle is not for you then I wouldn't bother with the site.

[Pythos]

I guess I am leery of the idea of fetish. It seems in our culture only men are labled fetishists, and it is almost always in a negative connotation. I have been accused of having a fetish because I prefer leggings to jeans. It is not done in flattering manner.

I most likely will check this place out though.

[DonniDarkness]

It seems in our culture only men are labled fetishists

LOL

My Favs:

Mistress Dragonlilly
Bobbi Star
Isis Love
Lorelei Lee

All Top fetish Women, Before and after thier scenes on thier website, they are interviewed about who they are and who thye are doing the scenes with. All very healthy minded and kinky as they come.
Oh and they really like crossdressers too!

Perception and Perspective my dear friend....

You friendly neighborhood Kink,
-Donni-

[LilSissyStevie]

I guess I am leery of the idea of fetish. It seems in our culture only men are labled fetishists, and it is almost always in a negative connotation. I have been accused of having a fetish because I prefer leggings to jeans. It is not done in flattering manner.

I most likely will check this place out though.

Just think of "fetishist" as being the N-word for people who deviate from the "norm" sexually. It wasn't too long ago that masturbation, homosexuality, bi-sexuality, oral, anal, and sexual activity using foreign objects were all considered fetishes, paraphillias and perversions. Now they are considered normal due to political pressure to drop them from the fetish list, not because of some scientific discovery that they are wholesome activities. There is no scientific basis for the idea of fetishes or paraphillias. It's all cultural bias. It's ridiculous that only coitus in the missionary position could be considered "normal" sex. I mean, who does that anymore?

I don't know anything about fetlife. I'm well taken care of in that department.

[Cassandra Lynn]

It is Fetlife, you misspelled it, and i still pop on occasionally. You say the "name implies fetish", uhhh yeah it IS a place for fetishists of all varieties. And it is a huge huge place that has a group for every fetish imaginable and some you wouldn't even begin to fathom. One can find people to chat with and get to know and the CD/TG groups found there do have some GGs that participate.
But given the way you worded your OP i would think you would be highly disappointed. In fact i think it is no better than any other social group for meeting potential romantic partners. The vast majority of members are there to meet people interested in fetish activities.
Having said all that Pythos, and i hope you don't mind me bringing this up, but you have spoken of your GG girlfriend and that she seems interested in some fetish type roleplay in a "somewhat" D/s or fetish way, for that purpose it might be a place the two of you could check out together. Think of it as a way to learn somethings and see if that is something you are interested in.
Be very aware though, it is a very "in your face" atmosphere, peoples avatars are commonly very kinky and there is no such thing as clothing rules/policies.

Cassie

[divamissz]

I'm a FetLife member, which if you know me is not that surprising. And if you can't guess my username there you are not trying...

What is FetLife? It's a social media site for the BDSM/leather/fetish/kink/etc. communities. You'll find people who have interests that you might find fun, and others you'd never, ever go near. There's a number of transpeople there, who go from gender fetishists to post-op TS. I don't see it as a place for CD's to meet women-it's not really set up for that. But you will find people who share common interests, in your area. If you're not really into kink, you probably won't like it. If you have an interest, try it.

[2SpeedTranny]

Pythos,

No need to be leery. It's just a word.

Like it or not, and I know a lot of members here won't like it, crossdressing isn't exactly what you might call "vanilla." Some of the kinkier folks in the fetish community might think it's vanilla though... which is why it just may turn out that you meet some pretty cool people there.

One thing about it -- people who are open about their sexuality like that, in a social setting, are guaranteed to make you more welcome than your local Baptist church!

Give it a try. The very least it can do for you is accustom you to meeting new people and making friends -- and you might even find your Mistress Right.

[ReineD]

I am although I don't participate any more. I think very highly of the place. People are respectful of one another. There's a very wide spectrum for play, and no one puts anyone else down for their preferences ... or lack of certain preferences as was my case. lol

[Yolanda_Voils]

It has it's places of fetishes for sure, but only if you wish to go there.

All in all it's sorta just another "portal" to enter areas of interest to you.