There's a question on my mind that has been turning and building on allot of post I read.
(because this seems to happen to me.....i Would first like to say I'm not trying to bash any one or single any one out I'm simply trying to be a supportive person coming to you all with a concern)
Why is it that so many posts are about hiding?? How to hide, close calls almost getting caught, or the inevitable "I got caught". Believe me I know what fear is and I'm taking it into account here, I understand being bound by fear. However I find it strange (and this is the truest nature of my question here) that so many people hide from S.O's and family, granted I'm not to close with my family, but shouldn't those closest to you be your refuge from all other things in this world.
On top of all that, love built on lies and secrets is no love at all, If it were well Id be a perfect wife wouldn't I? I could have a relationship with just about anyone I chose because I wouldn't ever tell them about myself and if they asked I could just lie.
Then this cycle ends on so many posts with disillusionment, broken hearts, and devastation. When it could have just been avoided, in the first place. Its kinda a F'ed thing to do to some one you love.
I understand I'm a GG and some might say I don't know the first thing about being a man in this world with a taste for pretty things, but what I do know is I have spent my whole life outside the main stream and definitely no where near any social norm, and I know a Farley large sum about psychology and sociology, so I'm often concerned when I see self destructive cycles repeating and not being corrected. I'm not saying you got to go out in the world and shout from the tallest tree your a cross dresser I'm just thinking you should be honest with your lovers and such
To sum this up, I would like to add a side note to those who have done this and say thanks ya all rock my socks,
so next time your running to a bathroom for a washcloth because you just herd a car pull up in your drive way, your only hiding a wonderful chapter in your life from some one you love and care for, and if its going to ruin your relationship , consider the strength of the relationship your involved in.
IF you cant be your self who can you be?