There have been a lot of threads lately about not keeping our secrets and telling or not telling the ones we love. I got to wondering why do we worry so much about keeping our secrets? The main reason is fear. We fear what others will think of us. We fear what other will do us. But I think that the most important person that we keep the truth from is ourselves. For the longest time I could not admit to myself that I was a crossdresser. I knew what I did, I knew I liked what I did, I knew I wanted to do more, but I could never accept that label for myself. Even after I told my wife, I still did not call myself a crossdresser. We have so many labels in life that we are reluctant to take on new one, especially when it is one that many people, including some of our loved ones, react negatively to. So all those years that I did not tell my wife, part of the reason was fear of how she would react, what she would think of me, but just as big of a part was the fact that I could not tell myself. We think that we will grow out of it. We think that we can keep it under wraps. But eventually that day comes, when the desire is too much, when we realize that we have to have an outlet for this, when we realize that it is a part of who we are and it is not ever going to go away. Only when we are able to see for ourselves who and what we are, are we then able to tell others. Now that I have the courage to accept who I am now, I am able to consider what my future might hold.
What was holding yall back from telling your loved ones.