Came Out To My Sister Today....
hi all
as you can probably tell by my happy hello, the response was more than i had hoped for and my older sister is the first person in my family i've outed myself to apart from my mother (who didn't take it so well), my girlfriend, Amy, and my wonderful kids (bless their loving little souls). i was nervous and terrified telling my sister because although we are a whole decade apart in age, we have been close for most of my adult life.
her response was so very important to me but i felt that it was about time i told her - after all, this was the sister who took me to my first gay bar and showed me just how cool and tolerant she is of other people. i should not have been surprised that she accepted me, but her response was so loving and supportive i just burst into tears and cried for joy for nearly an hour.
i sent her a previous message, and in my nervousness and fear i had forgotten to tell her who i was so i had to write out a far more detailed letter, explaining as much as i could. her response swelled my heart with love and peace and i could not have asked for a more accepting, supportive reply. this is a far cry from the hysterics and grief my mother has shown me and though i really feel for my mother and i'm sorry she's taking it hard, she really needs to understand i am still the same person inside.
well, i do have hope and i am patient. i know that FTM transition (yes i'm planning it now) is still something quite rare to most families and so this kind of news can be frightening and painful for loved ones to try to cope with. i will wait for acceptance from my mother and if it doesn't come i will move on, leaving the door open for a future. my sister's response however, has really made my day. almost nothing compares to feeling this happy and i hope her acceptance sets a precedent for more members of the family in dealing with my news.
