Need to ask. When enfem, do you chase men.

[Pythos]

Sorry, that is a horrible title.

Let me clarify.

I have read that many here consider themselves heterosexual. But this can be amorphous with our little group.

When you are in drab, and you like women, then you are Heterosexual.

But, I have seen confusion when it comes to when enfem. I have seen people say they are heterosexual, but they are dating men.

Now, that confuses me. Soooo. Here is the question.

If you are a male to female CD, Do you stick to women?

Guh another horribly worded sentence :P

I myself like women. So I guess when enfem I can be considered lesbian. When enfem I find myself MORE attracted to women.

[Violetgray]

It depends on the motivation more than the act. If you are dating men because doing so makes you feel like more of a woman, well, that's kinda selfish and not fair to him but it doesn't necessarily mean you are bi. But if you are doing it because you are actually attracted to that guy, and you are also attracted to women, then you are bi.

The presence of a skirt and heels has no bearing on something as hard-wired as sexuality.

[Debra Russell]

I am completly straight but being dresses I have imagined how nice it would be to be escorted by a male -- not sexually attracted by them at all !!

[Mikaela]

When I'm femme at the club, I don't even want to associate with men because I don't want to have those conversations with the inevitable sexual subtexts. Then again, those men are at that club for a reason, they are chasers 9/10. I don't want their attention in any capacity.

Because of that, when I go through the mental transition, I wouldn't say Pink Fog for me, I don't become a 'lesbian', I become asexual.

[Noortje]

When I'm dressed, my interest is with myself, so I'm pretty much asexual at that time. I could never be attracted to so style-less a creature as a man. I think my general dislike of the male form (including myself) as contrasted with the female form is one of the reasons I crossdress.

[Cynthia Anne]

Why would I chase men! I'M A WOMENS WOMAN!

[Nisha]

I am straight and attracted to women and women only. When I am dressed, I am not attracted to men in any way. However I have a secret desire to be on a date and be treated like a woman. I guess that would be only with a man for a real experience.

Then again, if I am with another woman, I might look like a close friend or even a lesbian.

In ideal circumstances, I could be dating a FTM. Now that would be perfect middle ground.

- Nisha.

[Prissy Linda]

No, I don't chase men, they chase me

[Sarah Doepner]

When I'm dressed en femme not interested in men, except that they treat me properly. The full extent of that is I don't get overcharged for my drinks, they don't spill soup in my lap or they offer to hold the door on the elevator for me. They are less important than the people I'm with who are usually other CD's or my wife. She is the only one I have in my sights for anything romantic.

[sissystephanie]

I was born a man, and since I have not had the required surgery I am still a man. No matter what I am wearing, underneath the clothes is a totally heterosexual man! Always have been, and always will. I loved my late wife(Always will) and I love my girlfriend! I can never really have her because she is married (and her husband is a very nice man!), but I still love her and she knows it!! Men interest me only as friends, and that will always be the case!

[Kate Simmons]

Don't have to Hon. When I'm en femme they chase me.

[Loni]

NO.

for a relationship it is only natural born woman for me. does not mater how i am dressed as when the door closes there are only birthday suits.

now if just being escorted to a place/event maybe. but he would know NOTHING is going to happen not even a peck on the cheek for a goodnight.


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[LilSissyStevie]

It's complicated.

[Jessica Who]

Yes I like women regardless of how I am feeling or how I am dressed. However, I do respect the fact that others may require the companionship of a man when they are feeling like a woman. To each their own I say.

[Mistybtm]

I am bi and i do find myself wanting a man more when i am dressed, when i am not dressed i am more into woman. I am dressed more than i am not.

[Vickie_CDTV]

My sexuality doesn't change whether I am dressed or not, so it is women only for me.

In terms of traditional gender role, I would generally prefer to be the "woman", and her to be the "man"; that is, her be the "dominant" partner and me the more "passive" one (on a date, I am the one on her arm, etc.)

[NicoleScott]

No. Completely straight. But sometimes a little attention is flattering. As for dating (which could mean almost anything), I have fantasized about being escorted by a gentleman on a date, just for the security and attention, never for anything physical. But I never did, and I'm sure I never will.
One thing I have thought a lot about is having a friend, also a cd, who I could hang out with as guys, take turns being the girl on a date, or going out together both en femme. No such person, though ..sigh...

[Jamie48]

No, I am not into men dressed or not.

[Kathi Lake]

Ummm, ew.

No, I am attracted to women - my wife, specifically - no matter how I'm dressed. A simple piece of cloth or a bit of paint is not going to change anything so integral to your self as sexuality. Those that think it might may be simply allowing themselves to feel the way they want to, but societal pressures get in the way normally. In other words, there is no such thing as 'situational sexuality.'

Kathi

[joannemarie barker]

I'm attracted to all sorts of people I find women and men sexy no matter how I'm dressed or how they are for that matter.if I went out enfemme I probably would be more interested in the men

[BRANDYJ]

Add me to the list that Is attracted to women regardless of how I am dressed. Sure, like many, I might have had a few fantasies about men while dressed. But the simple fact is I am not attracted to men at all. Like most fantasies, they are better left as passing fantasy. But those rare times when the pink fog is the thickest, those fantasies might crop up. But again, it's a mere fantasy. The strange thing is, when I am around my SO, is when I want to dress the most. It is my attraction to her that ignites my desire to be feminine. With her having to live 1,200 miles away right now, you might say the pink fog just isn't there for me. My dressing is infreaquent and not as good as when I am with her and she asks for me to dress for her. Dress for a man? No way, no how and never.

[TGMarla]

I don't chase anyone, dressed or not. I'm married, and happily so.

[RachelOKC]

I'm bi-bi, baby, and damn proud of it.

I won't get into the "it's complicated" details of how my sexuality works, but for me it's enough to acknowledge that if at times I like females and at times I like males - then I am bi. It's just so much easier that way then constructing some justification.

Bi Bi!

[Jill Devine]

Nope. Not into guys, regardless of how I'm dressed.

[Tina B.]

Question: Need to ask. When enfem, do you chase men. answer: No!
Tina B.