In Oklahoma City today at a conference, I encountered a couple of women wearing very short hair--1" or less, shorter than many of the men--and slacks or jeans / sport coats /white shirts. What the fashionistas would call "mannish", perhaps actually menswear coats, I didn't think to look at which side the buttons were on. Pierced ears with stud earrings.
Then later in a local pub there was a man in jeans and a pink T-shirt, with long blond hair pulled up in pigtails sprouting from the top of his head, like a girl in kindergarten. Pierced ears with long dangly earrings.
So clearly the women were expressing seriousness; and the man, frivolity. The style of hair and dress was sufficiently unusual that one might question the gender orientation of each of these people. And each of them sent a message to everyone they met about how serious they were. Admittedly, the women were in more of a business setting than a social one, while the man was surrounded by people ordering beer and ice cream.
What message do we broadcast to those around us? Is it what we really want others to think of us?