Originally Posted by
ReineD
I know I'm out of my area here since I'm not TG, but I've often wondered about this. Perhaps someone can answer it for me, since it fits into the topic.
What is the difference between someone who has a fetish for any number of things (latex, angora, pony play, leather, BDSM, feathers, feet or any other body part, rape ... the list is expansive), and someone who has a fetish for being dressed in women's clothes, either in specific items, or a fetish about becoming a voluptuous, sexy woman?
I'm not talking about a person who wishes to get in touch with a feminine side in any way. Just the fetish, sexual aspect of it, even if it is imagining the self to be a sexy woman who is pleasing a man, which can be a valid fetish of its own that has nothing to do with gender ID.
Would you consider such a person to fall into the realm of transgender? I've tended not to think so in the past, since a fetish is a fetish is a fetish, no matter what form it takes. I mean, a person who has a fetish about looking like a cat is not a cat. A person who has a fetish about steel and chains is not a knight in shining armor. Likewise, a person who has a fetish about latex is not a rubber ball. lol
At any rate, if such a person carries this too far (for example a person who cannot stop thinking about being bound during work hours to the point of being unable to concentrate on work, or a person who cannot have sex with his wife unless he is bound, even if she's not into it), is it accurate to say, if the fetish is wearing women's clothing, that the problem isn't the crossdressing for this person? Would you even describe what this person does as crossdressing, even if he is wearing the clothes for entirely different reasons than most people here who do wish to get in touch with a feminine side?
Where is the fine line?