At first I didn't understand why you felt castigated for having realized a deeper feminine identity. But then I read your last comment, and the argument was over the definition of a word?
Lol. You shouldn't leave for that. Everyone has their own definition for the term "transgender", in this forum, on individual blogs, on educational sites, and depending on whether they crossdress or are transsexuals. People do bicker about definitions, no matter where you are. Now if you said that people stopped relating to you because you no longer feel you are a CDer, then I would say that you haven't found the right people here to hang out with, since from my vantage point there are hundreds of members who feel just like you do.
Maybe you just felt you didn't need so many answers any more, and you didn't have such a strong desire to be here any more. Maybe you just moved on, like my SO.