Question about your Wifes attire?

[kendra_gurl]

I've often wondered if the way the Wives and SO's of other cd's dress in any way determines how they dress or how often they feel the need to dress.

To keep the question simple

If your wife or SO always dressed in very feminine and stylish clothing and lingerie plus very nice makeup do you think it would make you need to crossdress More or Less?

For me I think it would be Less for me. I love my wife but she would never wear sexy lingerie or low cut tops saying it made her feel trashy or ****ty, so my only outlet to see it on someone other than in magazines was for me to wear it. Same as for makeup, she never wears more than just a hint of it. Years ago she had a makeover done and it was amazing. It was very professional and tastefully done and made her look like a model. I took her out to dinner and she got so many admiring looks she felt she must look like a clown and hated it all because especially the guys could not keep from staring at her. I remember at the time I never felt so proud to be her husband and felt so masculine to have such a beautifully feminine wife that others drooled over.

Guess that just proves how visual we males really are

[sissystephanie]

The way my late wife dressed and used makeup really turned me ON!! I have no idea if it made me want to crossdress more or less!! I was thinking of other things!! She was an expert with both fashion and makeup, and was beautiful even without any makeup!! That is just part of why I loved her, and still do!! When we went out she always got stared at a lot, with good reason!!!

[prettytoes]

Kendra, I couldn't agree with you more! I love my wife dearly, and have begged her to "spice up" her panty style, and lingerie. I would also love to see her in a mini skirt...she won't even wear a skirt. As for the makeup, she got a makeover for a Christmas party, and I about went through the roof over how good she looked. She occasionally wears a small amount of eyeliner and some powder.
I think she is a very attractive woman, but she lacks the confidence to wear skimpy underwear, sexy lingerie, or short skirts.
I, on the other hand wear all of the above. I think I have the same skirt you are wearing in your avatar! One time she told me that she doesn't know proper makeup techniques, and she can't do it right (another confidence thing). I am really wanting to tell her she can practice on me, but she is still a little uncomfortable with my CDing.
I guess since she won't "trash it up" a little, I have to! lol

[Joanagreenleaf]

She dresses very well indeed, but what she does has nothing to do with me - and had nothing to do with me in the fifty years before I met her.

We have, just the same, had a few friendly competitions to see who "should" get a particular skirt... Imagine what the odds are that we might like the same thing...

Asking your question the other way, what I wear has nothing to do with what she chooses to wear, unless my guy shirt, slacks, and coat might somehow color coordinate with whatever she was thinking about wearing for the evening.

But, CDing and her choices/my choices? No, no connection at all. It's never even crossed either of our minds to think so.

[Karren H]

What my wife wears, has ever worn and will ever wear has no effect on what I wear or how often I dress. Truth is she has no taste in women's clothing. Or makeup. I do like her new fossil purse... Since I started dressing at 7, my tastes were set by what my mother wore and all women wore.. Dresses! Not jeans! Don't think my mother owned pair. And neither do I! Lol.

[Sophie86]

While it's true that my wife doesn't wear dresses or skirts very much and hardly ever wears makeup, I don't think it would change anything if she did. It would be nice, though, because we're very close to the same size and I could get some better hand-me-downs.

(And I think that before anyone points to that as a contributing factor in their crossdressing, they should ask themselves why they married a woman who doesn't wear girly things in the first place.)

[Danni Renee]

I will have to say my girlfriend's style absolutely has an effect on my dressing - for the better. She does not wear short skirts or tight clothes (which I do ocassionally) but she is very stylish with her clothes and accessories. I find that she is more of a goal in which I want to imitate and it effects my style choices and even my makeup. I cannot wait until I can be together with her so she can teach me her makeup techniques. She already sent me the makeup she uses so we can work on it together.

[Nicole Erin]

When I was married - my wife and I had different tastes. Sometimes I would help her shop for clothes, I can say my sense of fashion was better than hers but she was one of those who just didn't care about "fashion". Sometimes we would share clothing but it was more of a thing where she borrowed my stuff than me borrowing hers. I just didn't like her things, not my taste.

[Shananigans]

Well, seeing as my SO has thought about dressing since he was a child, I don't think it has much to do with me. I just don't buy the whole "my wife dresses like crap, so I feel the need to fill the woman's shoes." If it's the excuse you use to help validate yourself and get your through the day then go for it. But, it's really kind of laughable.

My SO and I have very different styles. I channel old Hollywood glamour when I am going out of the house...Bridget Bardot, Marilyn Monroe, Betty Page, and Dita von Teese are my fashion icons... Think red lipstick, cat-eyes, hot-rolled hair, and a bustier dress. His style is more...porn starish. Think lots of eyeshadow, bedroom hair, school girl skirt, and thigh highs. Camie's style is fine...to each their own. However, I laugh at the idea that she dresses like Pamela Anderson simply because I don't. I think she dresses like that because she likes the way she looks. I think I dress the way that I do because I like the way I look.

But, nah, that's too simple.

Perhaps, your wives don't dress up because they don't feel comfortable doing so. Maybe instead of putting them down with posts like this where you blame your own actions on someone else, you could start taking some initiative and some ownership of what you are doing...and, while you are at it, tell your wife that she is beautiful and conjure up a moment and tell her when you thought she looked her sexiest. MAYBE when less selfish actions are taken, you will see that your wife's confidence increases and she will start dressing to impress you.

But, all of that is way too simple of logic to actually work. It's much more logical to say you are a CD simply because she doesn't wear heels and a mini.

Riiiiight

[Tanya C]

My wife has a wonderful collection of dresses, skirts, heels, etc. and she looks great in all her outfits.
But that has never diminished my dressing in any way. To the contrary, I really enjoy our girl's days when we both get dressed up and go out and about.
Picture us walking down a city sidewalk together with 2 pairs of high heels clicking away. Life doesn't get much better than that.

[Daphne Renee]

How she dresses really doesnt have much effect on how I want to dress. She wears what she likes and I am fine with that. I buy her clothes sometimes and makeup as well. If she wears jeans more often it doesnt make me want to dress any more or less.

[Nancie64]

My SO does wear skirts and dresses and does a nice job on her make up but I don't beleive that this has any affect on how Nancie dresses. I love skirts, skirts, and more skirts. She always tells me that I have the nicer legs so I can wear the skirts. I do have a couple pair of jeans but only wear them to leave the house. And she really can't wear much for heels, they bother her feet so someone in the household has to wear them, and who better than Nancie.

[Iskandra]

Well I love my gf to death, her mind is the most beautiful one I've ever met, so sophie, entering a relationship based on the way someone dresses (or not) is pretty shallow and will go nowhere girl!
But yes she is more comfy in jeans or trackies.. Shoes flat due to ankle problems, though i am trying to get through to her hells dont need to be walked in! lol
Sexy lingerie, stockings, lace etc, she is not comfortable in due to selfbody image..

She went to a party last night and when I saw her makeup, it was stunning.. understated, simple yet highlighted all her amasing features.. (can you say bedroom eyes)
So she does know how to look feminine, she always does, I'm just dying to see her as a (my views) woman, soft fabrics, textures other than tshirt material, (lace, satin, rah rah), skirts and tops or dresses that accentuate her curves not hide them.. It's a mental think to her and I respect that.. but...

Yes I miss those things in my life, yes it has an influence on how I dress, but should her mind change and she start wearing these clothes, I would still dress the same..
Well considering she ramped up (you need to get with the times babe) my male dress, given acceptance and support, I'd probably end up dressing better en femme too... lol..

But no girls, her 'dressing down' is not an excuse for why i dress up..
Shananigans, you say compliment your SO, that it's a put down wishing them to glam it up a little.. This desire is not a put down, my SO is a diamond,(yes i tell her all the time) and with a little polishing she would be a crown jewel! Heck she already is to me.. I feel your last sentence is a put down too, it doesn't matter why we love something, or how we express it.. Love beats ridicule anyday!!

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[Shananigans]

Shananigans, you say compliment your SO, that it's a put down wishing them to glam it up a little..

Hmmm...I don't believe that's what I said at all. I would reread my post and keep in mind that my point is that CDing due to wifely frumpiness seems like a poor, far-reaching excuse. If you Do compliment your lover and make her feel special, then I think that is absolutely excellent. I am also glad to see that you aren't making CDing Her problem.

I am Not saying CDing is a problem, but The Problem is saying that CDing is a manifestation of a wife's lack of self maintenance. THAT'S the problem.

What I AM saying is that a bad approach to getting your wife to dress better would be to say, "I CD so much because you dress like crap." It shows that you know NOTHING about women. Women don't respond to that crap. We also won't respond to sh*t like, "You never wear miniskirts and heels...I wish that you would." Mini skirts are probably not her style. What we DO respond to is when you say something like, "Remember when we went to XYZ event and you wore that dress and did you hair up all nice? I was just thinking about that the other day...you looked so beautiful and I'm such a lucky guy." That makes me and 99% of other women go, "Oh...he liked it and considered himself lucky when I dressed nice...maybe I should dress nice more often." What ISN'T going to work is you telling your wife to dress nicer. Why? Because, we will just think that you are ungrateful, sh*theads and will probably throw every excuse in the book as to why we Can't dress nice. 1) Work 2) Kids 3) Stress, etc. So, my advice is go about asking in a different way. I'm not saying that wanting her to dress nicer is wrong, but I'm saying that YOU CAN GO ABOUT IT IN THE WRONG WAY! Case and point: I CD a lot because you dress like crap and I fill the womanly void that you are failing at.

P.S. my last sentence WAS meant to be a put down. Want to know why? Because every time I see these threads I do this

And, then I read http://whywomenhatemen.blogspot.com/

[Billie Jean]

No, but I'd love to be able to apply makeup like my ex did. Her eyes were beautiful but the way she made the up brought them out. Her whole face was beautiful but I was dressing years before we met. Billie Jean

[Iskandra]

Ahh gotcha Shananigans, subtle difference in reading I guess..
"I dress up because you don't"... yup thats a slap in the face, I see your point..

Just read the first part of wwhm, geez, point again taken..

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[Pythos]

The GG dressed in a manner I liked very much. Did it affect how I dressed? LOL. HELL NO!!. Actually she adapted some of my stylings. LOL.

[Kathy4ever]

I would not say they correlate. I think I'm like most and started young, many ,many years before I met my wife. I dress because thats what I liketo do not because she chooses not to that much.

[t-girlxsophie]

No my Wifes wardrobe has no bearing on my Dress sense,I wear the same now as I did before I met her.She loves her denims (as do I when she wears them)Joggies and t-shirts but also has dressier attire she likes to wear too on occasion honestly she could wear a bin bag and I would still desire her,One thing though since she met me her wardrobe has grown an awful lot and we have lovely girly nights when we get dolled up together.

Sophie

[Georgia Rose]

The only way my wife's style affects mine is that I like to borrow stuff from her, not having a whole lot myself. She doesn't like to flash any flesh whereas I wouldn't mind it. She does have a good sense of style. Since I've been CDing she asks my advice a lot more. The one thing I would like her to do is get better lingerie. I've bought her smarter stuff but she just goes and wears the old comfortable ones. Now given up on that & keep them for myself.

[Staci G]

As with Karren I like to wear dresses, my wife likes capri's, jeans, tshirts, no makeup ect.... I on the other hand love all of it dresses skirts and adore makeup, the smell and feel of it. When it comes to church she wears almost floor lenght skirts, either denim or cotton. I see other women in church and I ask her if she likes this or that to give her a hint. Sooooo no her style does not influence me at all. I dress much better.

[TGMarla]

My wife used to wear dresses to work every day. But nowadays she wears....whatever. Often it's some variation on a set of sweats. But I used to dress a lot back then, and I dress a lot today as well. I don't think it's made one bit of difference or had any effect on my dressing at all.

[LACD]

Dear Wife has a kind of "Dressy Casual" look. I guess I take a cue from that but when we shop we usually pick out the same tops, pants or even dresses and skirts. She doesn't wear a lot of make up so whenever I get a chance I like to put on make up. I don't get many chances anymore but I enjoy it when I do.

[jillcutie]

I think the way she dresses influences me a lot because most of what i wear is shared between us. What I do have of my own she has either bought for me or gone with me to pick out at the store. Most of her clothes that I wear are more casual, as my own are more dressy or sexy.

[NicoleScott]

Yes I agree, Kendra. My wife used to wear nice makeup, short skirts, and heels. And I loved it when she did. I'm not ashamed to go out with her as she is still very attractive but I miss that special feeling "isn't my wife HOT?" I used to get. I guess middle age has settled in. As for affecting my dressing up more or less, I'm not so sure. Long before I met her, I loved making up and getting dressed up.