Since I joined this forum, I have seen many "busted" posts crop up here and there. Sometimes it seems girls are being busted left and right. Although I have felt sympathy for all, some seemed to be courting disaster and discovery through carelessness, or by taking unnecessary risks.
I have been a crossdresser my entire life. To my knowledge, in my adult life, I have not once made a careless mistake that could lead to discovery. I am insanely careful to an obsessive fault, given the circumstances that require I remain safely tucked away in my magic closet.
That being said, while reading the occassional "busted" post, along with feeling sympathy, I have sometimes thought - "I am too smart for that! It will never happen to me!"
Famous last words, huh? This morning, I decided to work from home, with the intent of going into the office later in the day. This is something I rarely do. Even rarer, I decided to put on some lipliner, lipstick, and an overcoat of gloss. Normally, I do not dress unless it is all the way (which I almost did), but time, and the necessity of focusing on work, did not allow for it.
Anyways, I just happened to be in the kitchen, with the water running, in my own happy little world, when out of the corner of my eye I saw another person coming into the kitchen!!! Wearing lipstick notwithstanding, it scared the absolute $%#@ out of me! The person was a GG that my family has had a relationship with for years, and she is trusted like family, but I was neither expecting her, nor did I hear her come in due to the background noise.
I cannot imagine she did not see the lipstick I was wearing. As quickly as I turned my back to her when I saw her, maybe she didn't see it. But she is not blind, and she had to have seen me before I saw her.
Regardless, after she left, it REALLY shook me up bad! I am still upset about it, but at least I am relatively calm now (thanks to a forum friend who happened to be online, and offered me kind words and reassurance - thanks again, girlfriend! )
Of course, if she saw me, she saw me. Too late now. It's not like I have a rewind and erase button I can hit, or a Tardis in the driveway I could use, but I digress . . . .
This experience has taught me several things, of which, for the sake of brevity (it's probably too late for that!), I will only mention a few. The obvious lesson is that no matter how careful one is, the unexpected can still occur. I was arrogant to think I was "too smart" for it to happen to me.
The second lesson, which quite frankly is more valuable to me than the previously mentioned lesson (since deep down, had I really been honest with myself, I already knew that), is that the emotional shock of, and fear attendant with, actually being discovered is an overwhelmingly powerful, profound, and negative emotional experience. I was literally on the verge of being physically sick from it for some time thereafter!
So when I read and respond to "busted" posts in the future, given this experience, and now that I comprehend and understand better the fear and shock involved, I shall take it more seriously, and offer more appropriate support commensurate with the circumstances.
After all, it is all too easy to sit back, read some of these posts from our side of the computer screen, and sometimes not take them as seriously as one should. I am certainly guilty of this myself. And given the raw emotional power of the fear and shock I felt earlier today, it is now quite evident to me that some of my posts and PMs to other girls here have been woefully inadequate, both in terms of understanding and the support offered, regardless of the noble intentions I had at the time.