How has this site affected you?

[kendra_gurl]

Pretty simple question. After becoming a member here and reading the thousands of post from all the members here How has it affected you?

oh ya my answer... It has made me desire to dress a lot less but when I do, to dress totally and to the very best of my ability. This sight has just re-enforced what I knew all along. I am not alone, but I am not nor do I want to be where some others here are. No judgments of anyone intended just stating the way I personally feel how this site has affected me.

[Kathi Lake]

Before I joined this site, I was alone. Sure, I'd read of others who did this stuff, but I was still the only creepy guy out there.

I was a wallflower. I was shy. I was scared. Dressing up completely? Sure, a few times, but rarely outside, it seemed.

Now? I'm not exactly shy. I'm not exactly a wallflower. I live for getting dressed up and showing the world what a great bunch of wonderful people we are. This place, and the wonderful people here, have given me the confidence I never knew I had.

Kathi

[VioletJourney]

Before I joined this site I thought crossdressing meant I had some kind of severe mental disorder. Now I know there's lots of good people just like me and I have no problem with it!

[Karren H]

Since its what I use to post mostly.... I've developed severe Blackberry thumb!! Crossdressing wise... Not that much. I was wacky way before I came here 6 years ago? And I was active on a few other forums before I came here.... But I've made some awesome friends here that have translated onto other social networks...

[RADER]

I was dressing for many years, since I was very young, mostly sneaking Ma's girdles and wearing them to bed at night.
When I got married, I thought things would get easer, with a wife helping me get dressed. She would have nothing to do with it.
And 9 years later, a bitter divorce. Jump forward to the present day, married 18 years to a loving wife who likes me
dressing, as long as I stay in the closet. I do not mind, I would never pass anyway. I am built like a Lumberjack with a few
extra pounds. This Forum as given me confidence to under dress a lot more, I wear Panties 24/7, a bra about 50% in summer,
and 90% in winter.
So I say thank you to the forum and all the lovely new friends out there, You taught an old Dog new tricks. LOL
Rader

[Starr]

This site and a couple of others have given me the courage to continue on this path. I always enjoyed getting dressed pretty and being all girly. Now however it is all I can think about, and I keep pushing myself in the direction of being a full time girl. Will see where that takes me, but in the mean time I think you all for being a wonderful bunch of girls who understand the ups and downs of being a tgirl.

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[Billie Jean]

It didn't affect the frequency of my dressing. Like you I tend to fully dress and I have been out in public a few times. I did dress in public once before for Nursing Home Week before being a member here. Billie Jean

[Billie Jean]

Since its what I use to post mostly.... I've developed severe Blackberry thumb!! Crossdressing wise... Not that much. I was wacky way before I came here 6 years ago? And I was active on a few other forums before I came here.... But I've made some awesome friends here that have translated onto other social networks...

Over 16,000 post my thumb would have fallen off. You only joined a month before me but I go for periods without posting. Billie Jean

[Stephanie Miller]

You all have raised the bar. Before I started on here I knew there were pretty CD's out in the world. And I always wished I could be one. ( I can't hold a candle to any of the Gg's on this board they are all so pretty- so why try )Then I got on this site, and the more time I spend the more of you show up - and I realize the bar is just too high for me to reach and I better be satisfied with who I am. I also love the diverse opinions of everyone. I may or may not agree, but I don't care. I enjoy the open dialog with like minded people that really aren't judgmental to who I really am inside.
Kind of a family outside of family. All over the world.

[Raychel]

This forum has given me the courage to come out to my wife and accept myself for the person that I am. It has given me many new friends both online and in real life. Great friends that I never would have met anywhere else.

[dawnmarrie1961]

This website has saved my life more than once.

[Lady_Chaos]

A sign of HOPE that I can be myself in the real world.

[Debra Russell]

My femm self has put more demand on my time than I have ever thought -- as that is all I ever think about! This forum has given me a form of expression that has held "Debra" at bay for the good of all as I tend to be somewhat obsessive and a little complusive about my sister self. I am thankful for this place......Debra

[BLUE ORCHID]

This fourm has shown me that I'm not alone in this big world and that I now have thousands of friends.

Orchid

[Karren H]

Over 16,000 post my thumb would have fallen off. You only joined a month before me but I go for periods without posting. Billie Jean

Lol. On my favorite makeup forum I'm pushing 20,000 and I post prolifically on facebook.. Worn out 3 blackberrys in as many years....

[Debglam]

Before I joined this site, I was alone. Sure, I'd read of others who did this stuff, but I was still the only creepy guy out there.

You and me both! My CD'ing hit critical mass last year and I finally got the nerve to wade through the "*******" porn sites until I found this site. Until this point I KNEW I was alone, anyone else with this desire HAD to be a pervert or some kind of freak. I was really scared to enter my information when I first got here. I did and the thought police didn't kick in my door! Well the rest is history! I don't want to leave anyone out, but after reading the posts from some of the regulars, posting myself, and then getting responses my world changed. Thank you sisters! I hope when you started that there were girls and GG's that were as kind and helpful to you as you have been to me. All I can do in thanks is to "pay it forward" and I will!


Debby

[Annaliese2010]

Its on the other side of a portal from the world 'out there' its safe its calm it nice its pretty its people are interesting, intelligent, logical & caring. Its thought provoking & challenging but not condescending. Its gloriously glam, frivolously fun, disarming & daring. There are moments skirting.. sensual & sexual but never descending to baseness nor disrespecting the aesthetic sensibility of those more timidly minded. Its a verdant oasis amidst the desert. At the cool edge of fresh, a forum free floating; virtual yet vibrant, animated, alive. Like the soft breeze uplifting, turning & twisting a white restless feather forever buoyant, joyous; this is a nexus, a gentle collective where spirits embrace, express, co-mingle, create a smoothly streaming lightness of being; the crest of which to ride, the breadth of which to swim, the depths into which one dives to find.. adventure, discovery & the mystery of secret origins.

[Pythos]

It has helped me know I am not the only one. It has also gotten me to get out of a shell, to an extent.

I wish I had known of a site like this long ago though.

Due to two members so far I have found groups where I can wear and look how I want outside of the goth clubs. My old friends circle disentegrated with the loss of the GG, so now I need to find new ones. I have my flying friends but I have so little in common with them, aside from a love of flying.

[Kathi Lake]

. . . but never descending to baseness . . .

And may it stay this way always.

There are plenty of forums out there for 'that.' I'm so glad our mods keep this one as an oasis from that!

Kathi

[RICHELL]

Other than my wife not liking it, with a beard it is hard to go any place dressed up with out looking like, the bearded lady at the side show.

[PretzelGirl]

There is a lot. I have learned a lot here. Not just how to dress, do make-up, and all that standard stuff. But I have learned who we are and how diverse we can be. When I came here, I had the myopic view of who were where because of a lack of exposure.

I have also had other changes. I get out now when it was unfathomable before. Now it is no big deal. I have come out to many people when it was just my wife previously. And finally, and most certainly not the least of all, I have made many friendships. Whether they are those that I only see on-line, are local to me, or I might at Diva Las Vegas, I feel I have many new friends and they all mean a lot to me. The biggest accomplishment you can make in life is how many people you positively affect and a lot of people here have accomplished big things.

[Rachel Mari]

I echo many here by saying that I'm not alone anymore. I've learned a lot and I want to learn more. I don't post much, not yet, but I read almost everyday.

I'm still working on the aceptance part and therapy is helping but I am starting to feel better about myself more than I ever had before.

Thank you all.

[CaitlynRenee]

I always knew we existed in much greater numbers. I just didn't know HOW many more of us there are or how diverse we are as a group of people. We're just about as diverse as any other group of men or women can be in what passes for 'normal' society. Just what IS normal anyway??

Some of us look absolutely beautiful, some of us do not. Some of us look as if we are 'coming home' genderwise when we dress. For whatever the reason is that we are CD, we now have a place to go and good people to talk to/with. Some of us will meet others from the forum and others of us will be too shy to meet up. Still, we have a site where we are accepted for who we are and not for how we dress, or for how we identify sexually, a place to share with one another. Yeah, I know, some of us DO dress and look absolutely gorgeous. Sighhhh, Wish my features weren't so rough.

Perhaps someday, I will have the privilige of meeting another CD from the site. Lot's to talk about and share.

I have the sneaking suspicion we will be just about like any other group of people, only with a few more interesting topics to talk about. May we always be honest and respectful of each other.

[Cynthia Anne]

Before I joined this site, I was alone. Sure, I'd read of others who did this stuff, but I was still the only creepy guy out there.

I was a wallflower. I was shy. I was scared. Dressing up completely? Sure, a few times, but rarely outside, it seemed.

Now? I'm not exactly shy. I'm not exactly a wallflower. I live for getting dressed up and showing the world what a great bunch of wonderful people we are. This place, and the wonderful people here, have given me the confidence I never knew I had.

Kathi

Wow! I for a moment thought Kathi was reading my mind! Not much I can add to it! Hugs!

[Natalie D]

I only joined a couple of days ago and I'm so glad I did. I've learned a lot in the past couple of days. I knew there were other's like me out there but never realised just how many. I like the honesty of the people on here and have completely excepted my dressing now instead of questioning myself Coming out and telling people on here about my CDing felt so good. Its a great feeling to finally share my secret with others and love being called things like girl and sister.
Its also got me thinking about all sorts of things and in the last couple of days I've ordered loads of clothes and my 1st wig